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Why was my married lover so nice and now he has turned cold?

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Question - (18 April 2010) 4 Answers - (Newest, 18 April 2010)
A female United States age 41-50, *uiltywife writes:

Two years ago i met a married man and he started flirting with me, of course i didnt pay much attention because i am also married. Well he came on to me so strong that i finally gave him my number. We had been texting for a while and fooled around a couple of times all of a sudden he turned cold on me. I have tried to forget him for the sake of my marriage but i find myself thinking about him, even during sex with my husband. He doesnt answer my calls or text and that makes me want him more. Could i have fallen in love with him or am i obsessed with him? Why was he so nice and is now ignoring me?

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A reader, anonymous, writes (18 April 2010):

He's probably trying to patch things up with the wife- or has another bit on the side as you're probably no longer bringing him any excitement. That's the problem with being the other woman- you become as big an anchor as the wife, and soon he hates you just as much... the advantage is that the other woman is easier to get rid of. Now you know how his wife must feel...

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (18 April 2010):

How meaningful did the texts get, were they just friendly or flirty or more than that?

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A reader, anonymous, writes (18 April 2010):

Maybe he had second thoughts? Obviously something that you didn't have. Maybe he decided his marriage was worth more than a sordid fling with you. You're not in love with him. You just crave the attention he gave you because you are deeply bored within your own marriage and instead of working at your marriage you decided what it needed was a good ol' affair to really mix things up.

Look at your marriage, try and remember those vows you made and forget this other man. If you do not want to be with your husband any more, walk away but leave him with some dignity in the thought that at least you never cheated on him.

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A male reader, CaringGuy United Kingdom +, writes (18 April 2010):

The moment you have an affair with a married man, you are walking into trouble. Because a married man will be using you for sex and nothing else. That's all. So either he's had his fill, or his wife was suspicious. Stop trying to continue this affair and go home and start working on your marriage. An affair with a married man means nothing.

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