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writes:After knowing each other for 15 years, since high school, my boyfriend and I have been together a year. We live together, have a great relationship, rarely fight, etc. He is the furthest thing from a romantic, and In all that time, he never bought me flowers, because, in his words, "they're just going to die, anyways." Now, suddenly, in the last month, he's bought me absolutely gorgeous roses about six times for absolutely no reason. I came home from work today to yet another offering, because he "saw them and thought of me". If I didn't know otherwise, I'd say he was up to something behind my back, but I know for sure, without a doubt, that he is not. I've never asked for flowers, never commented on him not buying them, nothing. There has been no fight, no catalyst for him to suddenly change.I am not complaining, far from it, but my question is-- why? Why has he suddenly changed his mind and decided to shower me with roses? Any ideas about what is going on in his mind?
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 March 2011): Perhaps he is buttering you up for the grand finale, lol. Maybe there is something he wanted to do, and knows it might be an area of concern for you and so he is being super sweet and attentive before he drops the bomb in hopes you will say yes.
I dont mean anything sordid. Just something that he wants a yes to from you. I was thinking more like he might be building up to asking you if he could go away for the weekend with his buddies, or wanting to buy something major that you wouldnt necessarily spend the money on, or something of the like.
like blonde30s said. Just ask him in an offhand way while you are thanking him what the roses were all about. Then gauge his reaction.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 March 2011): Yeah, change of heart. He knows you like them and wants to make you happy and perhaps hes giving you so many and all at once because he's making up for the time that he did not give. I dont find this behavior controlling by you, I find it more as a a good communication tool to help know him know what you like so your relationship can continue to thrive. Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 March 2011): How about just enjoying the flowers and the gesture behind it instead of questioning his intentions behind it?
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reader, lakers_lover09 +, writes (16 March 2011):
I would say he is attempting to give you everything you need in a man. Have you ever told him tht he wasn't very romantic? Maybe he is trying though, so lay back and be treated like the lucky girl you are :)
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