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writes: Can anyone pls help me try to figure this out?My ex who I broke up with just a couple of months ago is starting to send me texts again. Two weeks ago, I texted and tried to call him but never got a reply. The purpose of contacting him was for us to exchange some stuff we still need to return to each other. He ignored me totally. Last week he finally replied to me and said that we will do the exchanging this week.I was satisfied with his proposal and never initiated any contact anymore. I just thought I will wait for him to say what day exactly and what time he will come to drop by. I am serious about moving on with my life.This week though, several times at around midnight and early today at 2AM, he would text me to ask or inform me about things that's totally not related to us.Messages like .."i met your friend's boss at a meeting today..""Did your sister find a job? is she going home to her family?"I don't know what to say. He sent this messages while I was sleeping. And until now he never mentioned anything about the date and time for him to get his stuff here at my home. The week is almost over.I still had not replied to him. I have to admit I still have feelings for him but I am determined to move on.What is he trying to do? Should I reply?
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 June 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks so much girls for your advises, really appreciate it!!
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reader, brokenandconfused  +, writes (19 June 2009):
 he starting to relize that you probably were a great girl and maybe he's a little bored with his life. he feels that if he never gives a date and time that he can always stay in contact with you. my suggestion is to just throw his stuff away and move on like you said you were.
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reader, Chippy2 +, writes (19 June 2009):
I think everyone is right on with the answers to this one! My x kept pulling me back in with refusing to return my things.I just kept at him and ignored the other text this week. He did keep in going for a time I will admit and it was the same cycle again and again.Once he returned my things I sent his house keys back by certified mail.He still txts me - he was cheating on me with an internet whore at the time now her sister is his GAL - go figure.He texts me cause he wants sex - he said it is not good with her. HA! There is no going back to that. I am just ignoring it - I gave him too many chances - If you want to move on DO IT. And if you can arrange some way you dont have to meet to do it. Trusted friend etc.I did not see my x our friend brought the stuff and I gave him what I had. That worked.Good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 June 2009): Sounds like he is finding it hard to let go and that collecting his things is very final. But you sound sure it's what you want, so just ring again and ask him what day and time he is coming to collect his things - or you could take them to him instead.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 June 2009): Hmm...I think that if you reply, then he will reply back. And the little messages will become bigger messages, and before you know it, he will be asking to give things another go.
If that is what you would like, then that's fine. But if you really are determined to move on, then I would advise ignoring his messages, and only have contact with him for important issues. I think that, eventually, he will get the message. x
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