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writes:I initiated contact with a guy online and we've so far exchanged lenghty messages. I must admit that I have been driving the conversation a bit more than him by asking questions about which we both then talk. He does ask things but isn't very pro-active so to say.It's only been a week of emailing but usually by this stage, guys have asked me for my number or to meet me, or at least hinted at progressing things.This guy hasn't done that. In his last email he says he's meeting lots of people and seeing what happens in terms of a relationship (no reference to me or meeting me or anything). My gut feeling is that he's not actually interested and never in fact was but emailed me a few times as it was the polite thing to do.He has asked me some questions in his last email so I could respond but I don't know what to say to him now. I don't want to keep talking on and on and pushing this thing if he isnt't interested. He could be responding to me for a number of reasons, being polite, being bored, wanting attention and so on.So guys and girls, what's your advice on this one?I would love to email him and ask him if he's actually interested in progressing things. I know it's forward and it's only been a week but I really don't have the time or the energy to keep emailing him without any progress on his end.What should I say? I don't want to come across as too pushy but I'd like to know where I stand and if he's actually interested at all. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 June 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks guys! I'm going to try and see if he wants to progress things. who knows, maybe he's seeing someone else so he's responding to me just in case this other thing doesn't work out
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 June 2009): Suggest chatting on the phone.
Some men just use these sites for emailing so at least you will have an idea whether he is one of those men.
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reader, ilovebowsandcherries  +, writes (19 June 2009):
 Hun i know what you mean he does seem like he's just not looking to meet you.
just say to him that you are interested in meeting up with him and stuff seeing how things go and see if he responds?
if he does want too then GREAT! if not then just say look i like you i just wondered whether or not i have a chance?
it's not too pushy just you're letting him know how you feel he maybe pretty clueless and feel maybe you're not into him. just try and spell it out to him and see how it goes.
keep me updated :)
hope this helps sweety x x x
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 June 2009): I think you should go for it! If you are feeling like there isn't any point in having contact with him if it's not going anywhere, then what have you got to lose?
If he isn't interested, then you will know. But if you just give up now, you won't ever know, and he might feel the same.
Perhaps he is thinking the same thing as you. Maybe he wonders if all you would like from him is friendship.
I would say go for it, as you have nothing to lose. x
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