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writes:my girlfriend broke up with me a month ago and we were on pretty good terms.i started hanging out with an old friend alot(a girl)and when my ex asked me if i was seeing anyone i lied(my mistake i know) and told her thati was interested in someone and we were going out,this was 3 weeks after we broke up,she immediatly went out and slept with some other guy(which i have no problem with)but when she found out i was lying(we had to meetto exchange some stuff)she got extremely pissed off. my lie was out of desperation,pride whatever..why should she care...she dumped me?
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reader, tedstryker74 +, writes (7 June 2011):
tedstryker74 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthank you all for the advice,i agree and i am moving on.
after reading your replies a thought has come to mind.
my lie was her justification to go "out" with another
guy.......when she found out it wasn't true, that justification was lost and she may have some bad feelings(shame,feels dirty,etc) about what she did.
any thoughts???
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reader, alex74 +, writes (6 June 2011):
 I have to disagree with others that find you at fault. You SAID you were interested in another girl and going to go out with her. Your ex immediately went out and spread her legs for some guy as an "I've moved on and gone further before you have." I think her response to the fact that you were even possibly interested in another woman speaks volumes. Move on and don't look back.
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reader, ironman777  +, writes (6 June 2011):
You were being pretty immature about this - she was hurt and still cared for you and perhaps wanted you back - no one who really cares for someone will go out with someone three weeks after breaking up with them - both of you are probably too hurt.
So my advice is come clean which you have and apologise majorily - not to get her back but for lying to her. You'll feel better for it and so will she.
then dont rush into something else - take your time you need it to heal from this relationship.
good luck
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reader, wiseoldman  +, writes (5 June 2011):
Unfortunately with some people jealousy outlasts love. If mature they learn to control this, but some never do. You're well rid of this idiot- she's just demonstrated how It's genuinely none of her business, and just shows how childish she is. Move on, don't speak to her again, and find yourself someone nicer than she is, which shoudn't be terribly difficult.
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