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Why plead with me to be friends and then hide the fact from his friends?

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Question - (1 March 2009) 3 Answers - (Newest, 1 March 2009)
A female age 41-50, anonymous writes:

I think I should not be in any contact with my ex-boyfriend, but your input would be nice. So, we've been broken up for 14 months now. Since January this year, he has been very friendly. Last month he visited me for the weekend and then insisted I visit him the weekend of Feb 14th. I did, cause he asked me crazy number of times and acted like it was super important for him that I be there. But what bugs me is he hides the fact that we talk/hang out from his friends. This just makes me feel like he's ashamed of me? This behaviour has been a constant - when we were together and went out to parties, he always introduced me as his flatmate, not his girlfriend. Granted, he was probably looking to pick up women there so obviously he didn't want it to be known he had a girlfriend. But now, after one year of being broken up, nothing's changed with him. Why plead with me to be friends and then hide the fact from his friends?

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (1 March 2009):

I did ask. He said because he didn't want his friends to know- this after he was the one who lied and cheated on me for more than 2 years.

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A male reader, yum yum Switzerland +, writes (1 March 2009):

yum yum agony auntIn my opinion there could be plenty of reasons. Instead of me surmising all the different possiblities why your boy friend is keeping it a secret from his friends that you hang out and stuff. I would ask him why he is denying it from his friends about you and him having an affair. Take care!

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A female reader, PLAYFUL United States +, writes (1 March 2009):

PLAYFUL agony auntSweets just forget move on with your and save your time for someone who's worth it. It's HIS loss not yours. xox

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