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writes:I am a lady in her mid fifties ,divorced and told that i am still attractive and look young for my age.I use dating sites a lot and get a lot of response , some good and some bad.I am pretty choosey who I date and usually the date goes well and we both chat and are quite open about ourselves.So there is no problem with communication. They are usually complimentary and polite as well. The trouble I seem to have is that the dates peeter out after two or three. I dont know if I am supposed to give them the come on more (which I can do easily)but I usually have to get to know someone a bit before I will do that. Are the men impatient (Idate my own age group) lack confidence, or what? I am beginning to get a complex as so many other women my seem to hit it off quite easily. I wonder if I scare them in some way ??? Any one else have the same problem?
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 October 2009): Most web sites are guys just looking for sex so I am told by friends of all ages, they expect some sex by the third date or so. Just play it casual, dont sleep with them, you will find the one soon enough, dont date online its so lame meet people in person, through friends, church, work, restaurants etc... Men dont want to spend money if they arent getting any but why buy the cow if you get sex for free so its hard to find the right guy. Maybe they think your too much work or you dont really need them. Only date men who are looking long term.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (24 October 2009):
Well done for not giving into theset guys. They were only after sex. Keep those great standards, and continue to make your way through the rubbish guys until you meet a goood one who will be patient, and actaully want to get to know you more than just want you for sex.
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reader, rcn  +, writes (24 October 2009):
 Do other women hit it off easily, or give it up easily? Doing it right, by not just jumping into bed with someone, is going to take you longer to find those with patients.
I think you'll find that special someone, you'll just have to weed through the not so good, the impatient and those who treat dating sites like a meat market first. By not giving in, you're doing it right, and someone will find that to be a very attractive quality.
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reader, SexyMik +, writes (24 October 2009):
My experience is that ladies can be not willing to take a chance.I supposed if you come on straight away you can frighten some away (not me I might add)or can send out the wrong message but life is too short especially for us guys as after middle aged the sexual side can deminish and as men rely on testosterone the spirit may be willing but the flesh can be weak, that is why men only give it a couple of dates as if they can't receive "attention" they will go on, that is probably why there are only two or three dates.Life is passing them by quickly and to waste it on nuns is not an option. Most men accept that the first date is purely a meeting, but at least if there is any spark, then the second date is a good time to cement or christen the relationship. By the 3rd time of no action it is a good chance there will be no action or guarantee by the 4th or even the 40th. The advice is go with what your body wants, but make a decision by the 2nd date or the 3rd at the very next, otherwise you could be easily facing the same situation this time next year.Well I hope that this is some help, well if all is lost there is always me.!!lol!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 October 2009): It is very hard to say with such limited information. I can say this...there are a lot of insincere men and women on these dating sites. You just haven't met the right one, be patient. Remember, you have to kiss a lot of frogs before you meet your prince.
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