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writes:I have a married friend who we use to keep in touch in teh Skype b/c he's military deployed in Afghanistan. His year there was over so he told me we still kept in touch in the Skype, so i told him I didn't want any trouble if his wife would get mad or he should talk to her about me so I can know her also and be friends with both of them.He said it would be no problem. On Xmas day I saw him connected and posted a greeting, he the erased me from his contacts, so i asked him why and he didn't replied. I sent him an email asking why he did that since our communications were purely friendly. We've always kept the boundaries, although he never wanted me to meet his wife.He replied me the following: (xxxxxxI got the Samsung Galaxy S phone. You can reach me xxxxxxxx@gmail.com.You needn't think that Skype is our only way to still talk. I'm sorry you were shocked.We're still friends as far as I am concerned.xxxxxxxNow, what the Heck does that mean? I never wanted to be seen as a "mistress" since I told him I never wanted sex with him only friends, so why does he want to hide me?
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reader, eddie85  +, writes (16 January 2011):
 It sounds like his wife found out you were friends and didn't like the fact. Even though you technically did nothing wrong, his wife didn't buy it (at least that's my impression).
There's no way to tell for sure here, but from all outward appearances she probably told him to knock it off. He's now changing the mode of contact so he can still chat with you.
This doesn't necessarily mean he has further (sexual) intentions for you, but perhaps he sees you as a possible girlfriend should things go south with his wife.
Either way, proceed with caution at this point.
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reader, Kilcardy +, writes (16 January 2011):
You are being set up. He plans on you becoming the "mistress" or girl on the side. Don't let him do this to you. I admire you for telling him that you didn't want to be the girl on the side, and even asked to meet his wife. He doesn't want that, because he intends on doing something his wife would not approve of. Don't go there. You will end up getting the shitty end of that stick. I would bail on this guy. If he plays the "I thought we were friends" card, tell him that if he wants a friend to get a dog.
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