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writes:So in 09, I moved for her after a long distance relationship that lasted 11 months. We were pretty sure we were going to be together a while and were tired of paying airfare to go back and forth to see one another.Three months after I got here, she broke up with me. She never really came back into the relationship proper.But she did show up several times last year for weeks at a time, telling me she loves me, sleeping with me, telling me she wants to get back together. Then, she would disappear.I assumed she was scared. I put up with a lot of nonsense in the name of letting her ease her way back in.Finally, at the end of last year, she came to visit me on my birthday and made me a cake that my mother used to make me every year before she died. We had wine, we laughed. It was great. It really felt like she was coming home. Instead, that night, she told me that she was seeing someone else, that she wasn't happy with it and that it was complicated. She ended up sleeping in my bed that night. But in the morning, she left and I haven't seen her since.She tells me she loves me. That she wants me. But that she just "can't". She won't even talk to me at all. I've been trying to completely avoid contact with her in order to give her space. Am I wasting my time? Will this girl ever come back? I want her to come back with every fiber of my being, but I just don't know what to do anymore. Help?
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 May 2011): She sounds like a pretty complicated chick. It's prob be hard to just let her go like that but i think u should give her some space to do her own thing. The problem's not with you, but with her.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 January 2011): she sounds like she may truly love you, but has issues with herself. she needs to figure that out before she can be with you. whether to wait for her or not is up to you. i would try and move on as best as possible.
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reader, fto +, writes (16 January 2011):
dude, i feel you, after 2 years in a long distance relationship, i decided to move to her town because i wanted a real relationship (and airfare isn't cheap), at the beginning it was stressful for her since she felt i left everything behind for her so it was driving her nuts, but we worked things thru (though she recently asked me for a break because of stress), and we are happy. this girl u like, she is not even sure what she wants, you sound like a good kid, do yourself a favor and move on, i know it's easier said than done, but everyone deserves someone who love them dearly minus the drama.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 January 2011): Bud that chic's a loose wing nut. Replace her with an assured confident stable woman which won't require any effort. I dated headcase like her and dude that chickettieflip was T.R.O.U.B.L.E. Shut her down dude and roll out.
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