A
male
age
30-35,
*Jay
writes:Hey. Well..I got no one else to talk about this. Me and my girlfriend have been together for quite a long time. And we got our ups and downs. Heres the problem to me.. we did broke up once just because I didn't asked her to have sex with me. She was so mad at me about it. But later then we got back together. And I've tried asking her nicely many many times to have sex with me, but she kept on turning me down saying like not today, I'm tired, not in the mood and everything. She even said to me that 'sex isn't everything'. So I stopped asking her for it and held on to her word. Then the next thing I know, she was mad at me again just cause I didn't ask her for sex. I'm really confused with her here. I just don't know what else to do or say anymore. Like what should I do about this?
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 January 2011): Wait three months to ask, and you will probably get a woman that never waited three months with anyone else except you.
If you consider that a good thing, go ahead and wait. If you have a normal guy's healthy self respect then ask sooner.
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female
reader, YearOfThePig  +, writes (16 January 2011):
When starting a relationship with a woman, you definitely don't want to ask her to have sex with you in the first month or two, sometimes three months depending on their comfort zone. But this is just to make sure you don't want them only for sex, NOT because they don't want it. We need to be frequently reminded that you are still sexually attracted.
Instead of asking, just start telling her how good she looks, and try spending a little more time with her. After awhile, don't ask, just watch a movie together or something and try to get her into the mood.
Women love sex too, but not just for the pleasure. Not having sex makes them feel unattractive and unwanted, which they will be quick to blame on you.
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