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writes:I can orgasm easily by masturbating or when my boyfriend uses his fingers, but not by sex. When we have intercourse, his penis isn't touching my clitoris and of course I can't orgasm. We have tried all kinds of positions but nothing works. We always do alot of foreplay first and I am plenty aroused. Is there some secret to getting the right place to touch? What can we do about this?
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reader, Tomas +, writes (20 February 2009):
I have heard from a couple of ladies that the best position for them to have their clitorises (clitori?) stimulated was woman-on-top, with her legs together in front of her.
As a guy, I can't vouch for this myself, but it makes some sense that being in control lets you choose where to push, and legs together gives better contact.
Your mileage may vary.
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male
reader, scifi_aaron  +, writes (20 February 2009):
Try missionary with your legs closed, or a position where one of you could use your hands for clitoral stimulation, it is rarely stimulated during sex
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 February 2009): First of all, you're not doing anything wrong - everyone is different and different things work for different people.
When humans were created they didn't really thing the clit through - yes, its great if you can orgasm using your clit, but as with A LOT of women (sorry guys) orgasms during intercourse are almost a myth - some of the lucky ladies who manage to get to orgasm via penetration only just don't realise how lucky they are! (am i right?).
If you're open to trying new things they there is bound to be something you could do you help your situation but i do tend to agree with the previous poster in that doggy style with his fingers to aid you a long or you helping yourself along would be a good place to start.
You could always have him bring you to orgasm before he penetrates you? Sometimes him orgasming first will give him less enthusiasm to carry on until you join him....not all men arelike that, so i appologise now before anyone else finds fault with that...but i'm going from experience here :)
Have you tried putting a pillow underneath your back to arch your body up and into a different angle? This can sometimes help him find that myserious g-spot people talk about. Or have him lift himself up over you slightly further to give yet another different angle of penetration where by his penis can rub against your clit?
I dont know if this will help but you may find something useful at the following site.
http://dly.free.fr/site/spip.php?article66
Best of luck!!
xxx
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