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writes:Hi im in need of advice,no matter what it is, i would really appreciate anything you can give me as im pretty confused right now!It sounds pretty strange i know but a guy i met about 6 weeks ago is like my best friend, but we have sex, and he has a girlf. It all started between us in early jan when we started textin each other. I only know him because he works with my mum. The thing is we were starting to get on really well, sending over 50 texts a day. We just wanted to know everything about each other, after a week or so he asked if i wanted to meet up for a drink so we did. Just before we met though things started getting frisky over text. Anyway we went for a drink and we just clicked! Time just flew and there wasnt a single moment of awkward silences. Throughout the night there was definitely something there, we kisssed a few times, flirted which turned into sex later that night.We saw each other again a week later when we went to watch a film. It was so good to just be able to cuddle upto him and have his arm round me, again later that night we had sex. Thats when we realised that we'd fallen for eah other because it just felt so right. He decided to see his gf that wkd, to sort out their relationship as they'd been on and off the past year or so. He then told me that they'd decided to give it one last go. Needless to say i felt pretty shit about that, especially seeing as we'd both said that we would be amazing together.A couple of weeks later and we wer still txtin each other all the time as we both felt we couldn't live life without the other, even if its just as friends.We met up again last night for the first time knowing we were just friends, and again had such an amazin time together, but that little something was still there and had sex again that night.i've accepted the fact that we cant be together, even though i want it more than anything! but we cant just be friends. i really dont know what to do. im not goin to sit around waitin for him to leave his gf, but at the same time he hates it whenever i mention my ex or if he thinks im close to a male friend. im 19, he's 23 and i woz with myex for nearly 4 yrs before him.i am sorry this is so long! but i really would appreciate some sort of advice!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 February 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionas far as i know all she knows is that im just a friend who he txts. i dont think she even knows that we've met up. He has told his best friend who he has known for years about what has happened. i did ask if he was ever going to tell her that he has cheated on her but he said he didnt know yet. All we both know is that no matter what happens we'll be friends. thank you, i am goin to have to talk to him bout this.
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reader, cute angel  +, writes (20 February 2009):
 well this man who u are seeing has to make up his mind..why is he having sex with u everytime he meets you despite having a girlfriend..did he tell u earlier that he had a girlfriend as in the first time he started texting you..and does his girlfriend know about all this..i bet not...well i think u should talk to him..he is just enjoying both ways with u and her..dont let him do that..if he loves you ask him to be with u,rather than swinging between 2 women..and ur mature enough to figure what is happening..i bet u dont want to be taken advantage of..your just 19 and u dont deserve a man who cant decide if he wants to be with you or not..they are many others who will love u and accept u for what u are..think about it..all the best hun..
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