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writes:Ok, im not so sure how to feel, but obviously when you leave primary school everyone adds each other on Facebook, just to keep in contact but really, the outcome is that people from primary don't talk anymore, right?Well, I did confirmation classes when I was in year 9 (last year) and there was everyone from my primary even though, no on spoke to me, some of my friends came with me etc.Just over 4 years of leaving primary school, and a boy from my primary school class (also from confirmation classes) just started randomly talking to me on Facebook, by saying my name with a question mark at the end of it. Then I said "Hi?". Then he said, "Do you even remember me?". I was confused because, firstly, we barely even talked before, even in primary. Secondly, we haven't spoken to each other in ages and I just about saw him last year. Thirdly, he was just some random guy in my class 4 years ago and we never even took notice of each other, we were never anything, just happen to be in the same class in primary school.I know I shouldn't be worrying but, Im so confused. Who just spontaneously does that? I mean, I don't understand, it's so weird. He can't like me, because he just doesn't, at least I don't think so. And I don't like him in that way anyway, because I just don't and he can't like me. So is this random boy (im in year 10) from like 4 years ago just being a weirdo, is it a joke? tell me your opinion on this situation please, thanks xps. I know this is barely anything, lol it's just out of curiosity.
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reader, franny1297 +, writes (1 June 2014):
franny1297 is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thanks Mark, a great answer, I was a bit blunt with him due to my confusion and he's stopped talking, ah well. Bye.
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reader, Mark1978 +, writes (30 May 2014):
 hello,
We didn't have Facebook in my days of school ;-) I have reached the grand old age of thirty six, phew that's old I almost literally hear you cry.
Who randomly adds someone on facebook they barely knew many years earlier? Well I'm not on Facebook myself but a good friend of mine who I knew from school and, later working together, is using social media. He often asks me if I remember so and so from Junior school (1985-1989) or such and such from Secondary (High) School (1989-1994) and in most cases I either vaguely recall the name or may have just a tiny memory of such a person after all these years. Its always because my friend has received a friend request/message on facebook from some random person from a million years back who we hardly knew at the time, let alone now! Kids who we went to school with, several kids who were not even in our classes, vague co-workers from our distant working past and people who may have once nodded an acknowledgement to someone who may have been a friend of a friend of someone who went to the same school as me and my friend for about a week, all seem to crawl out of the woodwork to add my friend on FB and ask if I am also on the site.
Why do they do that you shout as you read these words, well the vast majority of them want as many "friends" on FB as they can get and think back as long and hard as to who they can add to FB to bump up their friend count. My friend, who has a very common surname, as I do too, even has about twenty random people from around the country wanting to add him as a friend each week.
So there is one explanation. He is hoping to gain as many friends and therefore perceived status and popularity. Another idea is that he is lonely and looking to make friends and maybe knew you a bit from previously and thought you may have something in common now? Perhaps he fancies you? Only one way to find out his reasons: ask him. Give him a bit of chat and see what he says. If he gives a bit of talk then it dwindles you know it was nothing but him either bumping up his friend count or simply using FB as a way to say Hi to people from his past. If he wants to be friends with you then great - a new friend.
As you said, its barely anything.
Mark
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