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writes:Can anyone say they have experience of a serial cheat,who became bitter and twisted, after giving them a last chance? Somehow managing to convince themself they were dumped for no reason,telling people its you who must have someone else. The times you caught them,they lied or blamed you,became aggressive,called you paranoid etc. Broken hearted when you left then did the same when you went back? Is there anyone out there who believes you can love and yet carry on risking what you know will happen if you get found out. After you leave for good,then start a vendetta and say "i am gonna hurt you,just like you have hurt me" whilst totally unconcerned about the reason you left? Reply to this Question
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reader, failwulfe  +, writes (9 January 2011):
 yes, someone has. i have, yes they end up bitter twisted manipulative.
then end up many times finding more and more reason to blame you. even if they cheat w multiple ppl at once (hmm arent they cheating on the other girls too, if hes telling each and every one that they are diff and special and he loves them) -but its ur fault too
sometimes they can get so aggressive they push you around in more than one way.
its ur fault u never gave them freedom (hmm wonder why)
and i agree that there is deffinalty a personalty disorder that can only be adressed by them, and its up to them only.
no one will want to change themselves if they think theyre perfectly fine the way they are.
but if u have low self esteem them u will feel that u are wrong and that u need to change.
they will take advantage of this too, over and over.
id would definalty do you some good to continue to get these feelings off your chest and vent.
-try to understand things by looking at other ppls advice or stories
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 January 2011): Serial cheater with a personality disorder is a better description. The best thing is not allowing him to get that far. I did witness an old friend being caught cheating who hit her husband for having the nerve to catch her,when in her words should have trusted her. She was under an illusion that he had left her for a ho. She never ever grasped that it was her and he was the injured party.
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