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writes:I just graduated college and I live with my brother. He's 5 years older than me. He's been dating this girl for 6 months. I would categorize her as obessive. She is always over, she is the most annoying person I have ever met. Her very being makes me cringe. My brother knows she is annoying but won't do anything about it. He complains about her and then takes no action to solve the issue. He says he doesn't love her - she loves him, she told him so. But she is the type of girl that always has to be in a relationship, her last one lasted 6 months, she and her last bf bought a house together and then she left him... she's nuts. If I tell my brother how I feel he gets upset at me. So I stay out of it, but living here with her always is around is really making me nuts. When she is around I am really distant, I keep to myself and do my own thing. If I could afford it I would live on my own but student loans have me tied down.What do you suggest? I don't want to hurt anyones feelings. I just some peace in quiet and some privacy in my own home. Also - why are some girls obessisve like this? What is it about their make up that forces them to create tension and always need attention from a male figure? Reply to this Question
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (5 June 2010):
You are right that it's best to stay out of it. It's your brother's mess, and I know you care for him but he needs to screw up by himself. You'll find that she's very insecure, and any threat towards he little world is something she can't handle. Just don't worry about her. Best to stay out of it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 June 2010): You have to stay out of it completely, let him make his own mistakes.
Some people are just like that, they need constant action in their lives. It could be any number of things that make her like this but frankly there's no point in trying to discover why, the important thing is to know how to deal with people like her and that's easy.
Just do whatever you can to stay away from her, I know this may be hard but I mean in the sense that if she's physically there then just be mentally away, don't pay any undue attention to her, keep things pleasant but keep your distance.
It's important you try and stay out of their relationship too, if she really is a trouble maker then things could get messy.
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