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writes:Hi(:Okay this is going to sound really awkward but I just want to know. Why do some people have such a strong opposition towards oral sex?I know this girl who told me (in her exact words by the way) "You're nothing but a slut, you sucked him up and he ate you out, you're a slut. Only sluts do that."Now really I'm not a slut, I've only been with one guy and we've been together for well over a year. Honestly I don't see where it's such a big issue, if that is what you choose to do then go ahead and do so, but if it's not your thing than don't do it.So really what I want to know is why is oral sex frowned upon by alot of people? Do you think it's disgusting and "slutty"?Thank you for your time.(:
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reader, NicoleMarie +, writes (3 January 2011):
NicoleMarie is verified as being by the original poster of the question Hi(:
Thank you everyone for your answers. I appreciate them very much. :) I'm just going to ignore what she says. She is the only one who knew because she was my bestfriend but, we had a falling out and are no longer friends. The jealousy thing was exactly right. She was hitting on my boyfriend when I wasn't there, and tryed to get him to sleep with her. He didn't, he immediately called me while she was still there, and she had no way to deny it, being that I could hear her voice in the background. I now realize that it is a personal preference and if I'm okay with it, then it's okay for me to do it with a guy I love.
I'm happy to say everything is going well, and I haven't heard anymore from her since then. :)
Thank you all for answering. I appreciate it. :)
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reader, Illithid +, writes (3 January 2011):
 Two things: Oral sex is still sex. If you have oral with some one, you're views the same as anyone that is sexually active and at your age, ANY sex can look slutty to some people. Second, many women find it disgusting to give oral to a man so it's possible that your willingness to do something she finds revolting makes you seem wild by her standards. (Third, she might just have a crush on your guy and be mad that he's with you.)
When you get older, oral sex hs much less of a negative social image. Girls will still insult you though. Just ignore them.
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reader, C. Grant  +, writes (3 January 2011):
 Her comments might just have been a bit of jealousy. I recall saying very anti-oral things too as a teenager -- because I'd never had it, desperately wanted it, and was incredibly jealous of people who were in relationships where oral was a part.
Ignore the comments. Better yet, keep the details of your relationship private --- it's no one's business but yours and your partner's.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 January 2011): If you're in a serious relationship with someone, than no, it's not "slutty" or disgusting. To me, the only way it should considered either of those things is if you were someone who did that with any random guy.
The girl who said that to you might have been jealous of you because perhaps she hasn't had many (or any) sexual experiences of her own, or maybe she's just a very judgmental person. Either way, I suggest you disregard anything she says to you in the future unless she's apologizing for calling you a slut.
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reader, Miss Misunderstood +, writes (3 January 2011):
 Some people just don't find it to be a very clean way to have sex. However you know what they say, "To each his own." meaning everyone has their own preferences. Some people don't have a problem with it, some people do. However the same thing applies to nearly everything in life. I don't think you should worry about what other people say. :) Do what you and your partner enjoy, but be cautious of any diseases your partner may have. The girl may have said that considering how young the two of you are. It is best to do these things after marriage in my honest opinion. That way, if you have a child they will be in a good position with a mother and father that loves them and can support them.
Hope this helps. :) Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 January 2011): No oral sex isn't disgusting neither is it 'slutty'. The girl who said that to you could have been jealous of you and your boyfriend or she is inexperienced and doesnt want to try it (causing her to believe its gross) or has been told that by her parents.
She could also be thinking since you are under-age thats a reason for not getting involved in those kind of activities as you should not really consent to sexual activities if you are not the legal age in your country.
An act itself isnt slutty, its the person. If you had done it with multiple guys then I would understand her reasoning.
Remember you can still get STIs from oral sex.
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reader, ishcrop +, writes (3 January 2011):
Look to be honest when i was in school which by the way was only 2 years ago i knew lots of girls that would say thing like that im here to tell you that its all just BS. the same girl is more than likely gonna be doing it soon if she hasnt dont it already with some random guy.
one thing to keep in mind that when you are a lady you try to keep something personal or trying to keep things like that between you your very good friend. the world doesnt need to know. what you and your lover do
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