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writes:Whenever I am away from work, and I am talking nights, weekends, and vacations, my husband insists that I don't wear a bra. I thought you had to be 18 and/or flat chested to do that. Being 31 and having a full bosom, I have been worried that my breasts would sag from lack of support. Fortunately, I have seen no evidence of that as my boobs seem sort of frozen in place. I will bounce slightly (which my husband loves) but not all over the place. Part of me thinks it's okay since it turns him on. It's just that my 11 year old daughter is not sure why she has to wear a bra when I don't. Sometimes I will ask if my husband minds if I wear a bra somewhere and I get this look. Why would this be important to a guy? What's the profile here?
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 April 2010): Are you confortable with out one on is the question?many men do get truned on by free breasts yes,and if thats the case its a controlling matter with him.others may just be proud of there"woman" bodies and want them to be proud of it too and show off a little.my ex husband was the completly different now,couldn't belive i would consider not wearing one.i swear him and my mother worked together on that on.i never cared for wearing one myself.if you like being this way,then you'll find ways to dress that your not exposing yourself as i have.i have been completely bra free for almost 3 years now. as for your daughter,well the old saying do as i say not as i do applies i think.do you think thats right.i myself wouldn't force her to wear one,but talk to her,explain its purpose and so on.but in the end maybe let her make up her own mind on the subject.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (15 April 2010):
He's a boob man and basically wants to see them. But I do think it's important you do, just for the sake of your daughter.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (15 April 2010):
 You are allowed to wear a bra... But your husband loves to see your breasts loose and free and ready for a grab. You said yourself, he loves to see them bounce. But perhaps you can wear a bra when you are in the company of others, not everyone enjoys seeing bouncy boobs and nipples poking at your shirt.
But I say, if it doesn't bother you, and you dont think your boobs will sag, go for it and be bra-less. Boobs can sag even if you wear a bra, part of that is genetics. But a bra can also prevent them from sagging if your genetics work that way. Quite impossible to tell.
As for your daughter, does she have breats already at 11? Tell her she needs to wear a bra so people wont see her nipples through her shirt, and so that her boobs wont sag.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (15 April 2010):
 With as many cool and pretty bra's out there I think you need to let him know how important the support is.
Maybe he is a breast man...
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (15 April 2010):
 You have to ask your husband if you can wear a bra somewhere? yikes. You are a big girl, decide for yourself when you think a bra would be appropriate. And by the way at 31 mine didn't sag either but at 58 things are seeking a lower energy state.
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reader, clairabella +, writes (15 April 2010):
 I think it's to do with going back to male caveman instincts as not wearing a bra is natural, and way ovr 90% of men prefer natural, whether it be not wearing a bra or not wearing makeup but if you're not comfortable with it i think you should explain that to your husband x
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