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writes:I know will sound like every teenage girls dilemma but I have tried all te usually advice about wait for the right guy and it still doesn't help me. When I was younger I had a tendency to be a bit standoffish with boys but im not like that now. But no lad is interested in me or wants to be friends with me. I have had a few crushes but they have all turned me down because I just wasn't right for them. My friends have also sent me on several dates with boys but they never want to meet up after that. I can be a bit shy and I'm sometimes really saracastic but I'm not standoffish with lads at all now and I don't know if it's just my personality that repels boys. I don't want to sound big headed but I'm not ugly and I'm average in appearance. Im not sure why all these lads keep turning me down and why no boy is even slightly interested in me. I've tried all the normal wait for the right guy or just be happy with who you are but it doesn't really help me out. Please if you have any answers or just advice please help me!
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reader, ironman777  +, writes (26 March 2011):
bollocks - there are heaps of people who love sarcastic wit! and english sarcasm is practically the national pastime. Americans dont like it becuase they dont understand it....
Anyways, I agree you havent met the right boy yet and just to wait blah blah blah but also I understand your frustration about not having a proper boyfriend by now. For me it didnt happen until I was 23 and yes its really bad to sort of mention it because you wonder whats wrong with you. Believe me now that I'm older it doesnt mean your going to be a failure in life. You will still meet a man who will you will fall in love with and you go from there. Some people get married when they are 18 or so and heaps of these relationships burn out in their thirties because they got swept up in the relationship and werent really going in the same direction as their husband. It happens alot.
My advice is go to university, get educated and get a good job, exercise and look the best you can and then when your rich, fit and beautiful and have your savage wit, you will slay some really nice man who will treat you like a goddess! Either that or you really are crap at picking up boys! No seriously just enjoy yourself...
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reader, MamaBear  +, writes (26 March 2011):
What a shame so much of your energy is going into wanting a guy in your life! At your age, you are just maturing. One thing in your letter jumped out at me tho - you mentioned your sarcasm. Maybe you can work on this? I do not like sarcastic people, most people do not! Give a guy a chance and see what transpires. No, you surely do not want to fall "madly in love" with a young guy But, it would be fun to date, to exchange touches and kisses, have a date for every Friday nite. I think you need to take 2 steps back and reexamine your life. Obviously, you give off vibes that you are not interested. This could be subconscious on your part. Are you deep down afraid of getting involved, hurt, of being sexually involved, what? Think about this.
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