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writes:My husband left me for another woman after 24 years. When he left he acted arrogant and cocky. He rarely called or visited the children. If we needed anything he always said he did not have money and I was paying all the bills myself. Now he comes to visit and gives us money, cleans the yard and takes us out for dinner or hangs out with us like old times. He does not know I know about this woman. I still love him. What do you think?
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reader, Smiffy  +, writes (2 April 2008):
 Maybe he feels guilty...and so he should....but can you really trust him not to do this again in the future...for me trust is a big part in a relationship...I guess you have none for your husband?...how do you suppose that will change...the first time he calls to say he will be home late from work YOU will think the worst...this will only cause yet more problems....IF you have managed...the kids are fine...go it alone or find another more caring partner......also have you considered that he may be having problems with his new woman...and knows you still have feelings for him.....any roof is better than nothing....keep him at arms length....good luck
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reader, birdynumnums  +, writes (2 April 2008):
 While he is being apologetic, agreeable and making up for lost time - GET A LAWYER. Make sure that you and your children are protected financially, incase he has yet another mid-life crisis. As a mother with children, your financial problems and your own problems are constant and ongoing, so I would focus on that first and worry about his emotional issues secondly (if at all, quite frankly...).
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 April 2008): Sometimes we all make mistakes. It seems as though he went though a mid-life crises. Which sometimes happens and leaves the hurt party on their own to suffer. But at the same time abandon your kids and shun all responsability to them? That is a whole other thing. What this screams to me is--things did not work out according to plan so here I am ready to play dad and faithfull husband. The last thing is Girl are you kidding me? HE DOES NOT KNOW YOU KNOW? LIGHT THAT MAN UP!!
Either way to keep the marriage or end it you have to make him accountable for his actions. Why should you hold all this in and make it easier for him. You are a strong woman and do not deserve this torment. You need to let him know "I did it without you and I know about your extra caricular activities oh and by the way I can continue to do it without you" Cause their is a MAN out there who know how to love a strong woman such as your self. I believe a huge dose of reality would bennifit him and you emmencely.. (sorry my spelling is awfull)
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 April 2008): Watch and see. If he continues to keep this up, maybe you'll both reunite. Sounds like you might be agreeable. Just make sure your checklist is complete of all the things he needs to do to get your approval.
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