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writes:ok so i have this friend who actually is a friend!! She's my best mate and she has had a boyfriend for the last 6 months. The problem is (and I wouldn't be writing this all over the internet if we couldn't figure out the problem) but her boyfriend doesn't let her touch him... at all...!!! It's weird, my girl friend is a very insecure person so for her to get the balls to drop the hand on this guy was a big deal for her, an unbelievably big deal, so in the moment when she made the attempt, he pushed her hand away and said "I can't take the risk" take the risk of what?? My friend said he meant the risk of his parents walking in on them but he had just spent the last hour touching her?? She has tried to ask him what the problem is but he goes silent and won't talk to her when she questions him, he ignores her completely.She has tried more then once but every time she gets rejected and I find this so embarrassing for her that if I were in her situation I woud break up with him because I would feel he wasn't being open with me.My other firend "Zoe" said she shouldn't let him touch her if she wasn't allowed to touch him. Can anybody help? Wer'e trying to figure out the problem, we know that he must have some insecurities but there has to be something more to the situation xxthanks all my love xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 November 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionno he wouldnt be religious at al hes us a normal guy u no ??? althought he is very child like for his ages . . hes 18 and he looks about 12 ?? i dont understand it im trying to help her cause she is at the stage where she wants to just lay into him whn shes drunk and he does not drink so shes going to put herself out there to get rejected once again ?? whats should she do really cause talking is just being ignored completely she may aswell be talkin to a wall ??
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 November 2009): caring guy did you not read itproperly she said HE was touching her for an hour . bbut i agree she should keep trying to TALK to him but dont try n touch him n dnt let him touch her in if you scratch my back ill scratch yours in other words when he lets her touch him she'll let him touch her
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (19 November 2009):
Do you know what his beliefs are? Maybe he's religious and is being careful, or maybe he feels very very shy about it all. If he was brought up to think sex and touching were wrong, then he'll believe that. You need to try and get your friend to speak to him a bit more about why he thinks and feels.
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