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female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:I am extremely jealous and destructive. I was not always like this and I do not know how to fix myself. In high school I suffered with severe acne and a stye on my eye for almost two years. This was not because I was lazy and not looking for help. I had been to many, many doctors, none but one whose methods actually helped. I was extremely teased in high school, even by my own friends. I only just recently have entered into a relationship. However, he has had several girlfriends who all are beautiful and so I am often scared he compares me. I am also jealous when he talks to other girls. I know this is not normal and there are girls everywhere and I can not help this. We fight all the time about my jealously but he is a good guy and I do not want to ruin this relationship. I do not know what to do about my issue. I have attempted to suppress it, but I end up exploding even more. I tried writing in a journal but that has not helped. I feel I can not go to friends because I will be judged, especially since my friends were not there for me in high school when I needed them. I have tried reading books. I even have tried to flirt with other men just to prove to myself that I am attractive, but I guess I just do not have the skills since I haven't had the chance to flirt because I felt so self-conscious. This makes me feel even worse about myself. I feel that I am unattractive and stupid too. I should be comfortable with men. But they all remind me so much of high school. Should I go talk to a professional, any other general advice?
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reader, Miss Karma Louise  +, writes (19 November 2009):
just think honey:
its YOU he comes home too.
its YOU he kissess.
its YOU he missess.
and blah blah blah.
HE LOVES YOU GIRL,or he wouldnt be with you ,right?
get that into your silly skull.
good luck
x
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (19 November 2009):
I think your problem is that you were treated so badly in school, you're now taking it out on your boyfriend. The fact is, he's with you and loves you. So you're not stupid or unattractive at all. But I do think you may need therarpy, because if you've tried eveyrthing else, then your jealous streak is going to get worse. You need to get all those feelings out with someone who can help you understand them. All the best.
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