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writes:I have just found out that my fiance has been on a porn site. I am worried he is getting fed up of me. He has always said that he hasn't looked at porn since he has been with me (3 years now) so why now all of a sudden? Any advice please?
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reader, DV1  +, writes (11 July 2013):
 You're being extremely insecure. He's probably learning stuff that he can take into your relationship. If anything, it's going to make your sex life better. Plus, it's a way that he can get variety without cheating. Sometimes guys have to have a fantasy life. It doesn't mean he doesn't love you or doesn't think you're beautiful. It's all fantasy, and generally, it makes us guys appreciate what we have that much more.
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reader, CMMP +, writes (11 July 2013):
It's fine, he's been watching it all along. Guys don't feel like they're doing anything wrong so they don't feel bad about lying, because they're thinking their woman will get mad about nothing.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (10 July 2013):
 I agree with CaringGuy.
I don't think it's something new, I just think that he feels comfortable in the relationship to not hide it.
I DO think you need to talk to him and I would tell him to be honest about it.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (10 July 2013):
I think it's more likely that he's been looking at porn for a longer time that you realize, and that it's only just come to light. That doesn't in anyway mean he's bored of you or anything like that. Some people look at porn, some don't.
What you now need to do is work out what this means to you. I don't think it means he's bored, but if you do, you need to talk to him about it. If you're feeling this way, communication is key and you'd be best to talk to him about how you feel.
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