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writes:I'm a 50 year old lady. 6 years ago i met this guy in the same age group as me,we really hit it off, but after 7 months it ended. One of the reasons really was he had never been married and i think he had commitment issues. anyway after a while i got back with my ex of 18 years that was ok for the first 2 years, but i felt something was missing. In time this other guy started contacting me and we have met roughly 5 times over the last 3 years. He contacted me yesterday and i replied because i hadnt seen him for a year (my choice i might add). Anyway i said i would meet him tomorrow, but something has come up and i can't now. i have told him i can see him the following day he said sorry he will be staying with relatives for 2 weeks and will call me when he is home.Do you think he is making it up?
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reader, Ciar  +, writes (11 July 2013):
 He could be asking the same question about you. OP, it's really too soon to sound the alarm. Wait the two weeks and see what happens.
Are you still with the man you were with for 18 years or is that now officially over? What do you expect will come of your friendship with the other? What do you think he might expect? Don't tell me, but ask yourself.
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reader, Dorothy Dix  +, writes (11 July 2013):
Hi there. Unfortunately, you will just have to take him on his word.
Because, there really isn't much choice.
It is quite likely that he IS going to stay with relatives for the next 2 weeks, and it might be wise to trust him on this, and because he has said that he will call you when he gets back home, well then just see what happens then.
You had made plans to see him, and then had to cancel as something came up.
He could be taking that as an excuse, but most likely he knows you were being honest when you had to break the date.
And perhaps he had already planned to stay with family for 2 weeks, from several months ago.
Unless it sounded like he was just making it up, it most likely is the truth.
All that you can really do now, is to wait and see what happens once he returns.
And once he is back home, give him a week at least to get back in touch with you.
And if not in the first week, well then he might call you on the second week back.
It probably would be wise for you to wait for him to contact you, rather than getting in first and calling him.
Even if it goes beyond 2 weeks, still wait and be patient.
I am guessing that he knows you like him, and so it isn't a case of you not being all that interested.
As long as you genuinely get along pretty well with each other, well there is no reason why he shouldn't get in contact with you again, after he gets home.
Just give him some time, and see how long it is - once he is home again - before he decides to call you.
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