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writes:I am sick and tired of my boyfriends sister! She's a complete bitch! She is the youngest one and it just drives me crazy that we argue about her because she is constantly complaining about me and I dont know what to do anymore!? She never talks to me when I'm around. I ask her how is she or what she has been up to and she just blanks me! A couple of months ago my boyfriend had it out with her and she said that I never make the effort with her! When I ask her if she wants to go town or do something and she blanks me!I dont know what to do help please. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 June 2011): The fact is that she is feeling untrusting of you and that is her problem. For your part I would suggest not to try to be her friend, but do not be mean or simply ignore she exists either as it will only make things worse. I know that it is hard as my brother's girlfriend and my sister don't get along at all. The fact is that my brother's girlfriend has lost most of my families respect because she has tried to turn member's of our family against my sister and tries to not include her in any family things she is at and they see it as a sign that she doesn't truly love my brother. Fact is blood is thicker than water, and if you do anything that simply trying to be polite to her it may backfire. I understand how hard it is, and it's unfair, but from my experience from my family all you can do is be polite and just focus on the love and respect for your boyfriend that you have. I wish you the best of luck.
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reader, found89  +, writes (28 June 2011):
It sounds like shes intimidated by wat u guys have and that she may be afraid of losing her brother are maybe she's just trying you but you should continue to show respect but don't beg for her friendship because your in the relationship with her brother that don't mean u have to kiss her a** and hopefully she will grow to respect what you and her brother have an hopefully he can see that u did your part an keep her in her place I hope the best for u
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 June 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI have tried everything she's to bitchy and I can't be bothered with it I'm not gonna lower myself to her level. If she wants to be like that she can. I tried and Im not trying again.
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reader, Odds +, writes (28 June 2011):
 If you can't earn her kindness, earn her respect. I dated a girl once who had a younger sister that was pretty bitchy to everyone in general, including family. I laughed at her attempts to get under my skin, made careful comebacks to her insults that did not cross any lines, and basically ignored her to pay attention to my girlfriend whenever I was at her house (thankfully, not very often - her parents lived far enough away that seeing them was more than a day trip for us).
Once she saw that she couldn't bother me - including, most importantly, that she couldn't bother me enough that I would take the effort to actually DO anything to her - we settled into a sort of détente. Never would be friends, but there was an understanding. If I had gone out of my way to be nice, that never would have happened. Going out of my way to be mean would have stopped her, but it would have undermined my relationship, so it wasn't an option.
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