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writes:why is my cousin so nasty . my cousin Trudy is 40 years old with two kids . Jason, 20 and Ben 18 . well i never knew of her or my extended family untill i was about 11 . even then trudy was so stuck up and thought Jason was wonderfull as he went to grammer school and he can treat people like dirt and isnt he wonderfull and the thing is im not jealouse of him . i didnt know of them for quite some time as there was a megga bust up in the family resulting in me now knowing my aunt or my uncles children . well cut along story short i was learning how to drive and i told jason thinking he be happy for me instead the opposite - he was nasty , competative and he said lets turn this into a comprtition and i said to him i was dissapointed as i beleive in fairness and kindness . anyways i passed my test and he even had an opinion on what car i was going to get - being so nasty saying how it was too good for me - i was going to go for aa ford ka but as im tall i went for a corsa and like i thanked him for directing me to the car of my dreams .i was also molested and put through mental crulety at school this other male student kept touching me and saying sexual things i confided in jason and then one night when it was late he was saying how he loves me ...... and i was like WHAT Trudy his mother is also nasty competative always comparing me to him - but what she forgetts is i have problems like ADHD ect . She is always nasty and she just grates on me..... then last year her father (my uncle ) drugged and sexually assulted me . her response was why not let an old man die happy - she forgot to mention her own brother had also been a victim as there where also many others . the thing is they could have stopped it years ago but they didnt and this lead me to having a mental breakdown - many months where spent in hospital - and they (the hospital suggested i move out of the family home as its impinging on my health all the stress about what happened - i told jason thinking he would be happy for me and instead he is being nasty and ignoring me and i think its jealousy and i always feel upset no one can be happy for me .
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 September 2010): Focus on getting out, moving away, breaking ties. Start working and saving up money.
These people are cancerous. They let the cancer feed on them, and now they're trying to spread it to you. You're in the position they were in now.. And it's your turn to choose. Choose to be happy.
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reader, Dorothy Dix  +, writes (4 September 2010):
Hi there. It sounds like there's a lot of problems in that household.
You would be better off out of there altogether. I think you can see that for yourself. Sexual abuse and not only to you, but of others as well. That's just not on.
There are some serious emotional and mental problems there for sure in that house.
At the age you say you are (18-21), you can now probably legally move out of there and get yourself a job. Doing that, you could then find another area to live and rent a house or flat somewhere.
If I were you, I would definitely be aiming to get a job and gain my independence right away from all this business. It's not a healthy environment to live in for anyone. I wouldn't be hanging around for any longer than I absolutely had to. It's clear that you are not happy.
Have you been in contact with any of the charities - like Salvation Army or St Vincent de Paul? There are many large charities who help people find affordable accommodation in situations like this. At any rate, they could help you and give you some useful advice.
Do you have any school friends that you could ask could you stay there? What about grandparents?
The main thing is, this can't be allowed to continue. Don't whatever you do, go and live on the streets. Every problem has a solution.
Hope this helps you. Best wishes.
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