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writes:Where do I even begin..My boyfriend and I used to be so happy together. We'd go out a lot, we'd have fun, we would do all sorts of things. And then one day, it just stopped all together. I feel like he's bored with me. Like I'm a bother to him more than anything. I understand he's been having trouble with money, so I make sure he doesn't spend money on me. Material things don't matter to me. But it just feels like he's given up on our relationship or he just doesn't have time for it anymore. Which doesn't make sense considering we see each other every day. But we don't have to see each other everyday and I tell him that and then I'll go out with my friends or something and he'll get all weird about it.And then the next day he'll tell me he thinks we see each other too much!!! I just feel like I can't win. Out of nowhere, he just became this egotistical jerk that is just in love with himself because he goes to the gym everyday. I can't be with someone like that. I want to be with someone that looks at me like they're happy I'm there, not annoyed. Should I just break it off? Or do you think he's just stressed out about money and I'm reading into it too much? I don't know what to do.
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reader, PrincessRiches  +, writes (5 August 2014):
 Part of growing up is realising people change over time, and so will you. Some people grow more mature, while others will grow cocky and arrogant. It may be that the guy you fell in love with isn't there any more. If this is the case, as hard as it is to accept that he is no longer suited to you, it may be time to find someone else who is.
You deserve someone who is gonna make you feel real special, you should never feel that he is bored or can't be bothered with you.
You don't need to have money to spend time together-do things that don't cost money; suggest going for walks on the beach, or having a picnic, whatever you feel like. This will give you'se a chance to spend some time together.
Rather than breaking it off, perhaps you could take a break?, and if he is worthy of your love he'll realise how much me misses you and come back to you. If he doesn't then don't worry, cuz he's not right for you.
You deserve to be with someone who is going to worship the ground you walk on, and would willingly spend every hour god sends with you without acting bored or annoyed. If he doesnt start treating you the way you deserve, it may be time to move on. Its really hard, I know, but it is part of growing up.
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reader, Dionee'  +, writes (1 August 2014):
 Decide whether this relationship is worth fighting for and whether you have time and energy to fight for someone whom you probably won't be with anymore in a few years. Perhaps it's just time to move on because he has changed which in turn changes the relationship. It's up to you to decide what it is you want to do but be logical about it. Think things through and consider all information before making your decision. All the best.
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