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writes:hii have written quite afew times about my now ex partner and how he has treated me.i.efirst he had a "fling" wanted me out of our home; then decided we should make a go of it ..then a few months later, he decided he wanted me out again - so continuously bullied and bullied me to stay with my mum - so he could have some peace.(he constantly looked for arguments)I found out that whilst i was at my mums, he had his new g/f staying - but this was ok as HE had decided we weren't right together and he wasnt going to be a monk..well alot of her stuff that was at my house is now rather worst for wear ..i wouldn't like to be wearing stuff she is wearing that has been where it has been....So, the reason i am writing is because my ex and i have still got to sort out some stuff and we need to keep in touch, but he still constantly lies -he says he is at home when he is working, he says there is no post for me , when later on he realises there is, he says he is 300 miles away when really he is about 16 miles away.It doesnt matter to me where he is but it scares me to think he lies all the time about just about everything that is insignificant.I was upset about the break up at first, but now i realise i have had a lucky escape as i think he is an habitual liar and am certain he has lied to me about almost everything now.This 27 year old work colleague of his that he is seeing is welcome to him and i can do so much better -After all his put downs I am now realising what a rat he is and considering he has done the same to his past ex's i know it is not me.but why does someone lie all the time when there is no need?because i know the truth, he knows i know the truth, but he still lies
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reader, hlskitten +, writes (31 July 2007):
 Ha! Been there done it bought the t shirt!They lie because they are pathalogical liars, habitual liars, compulsive liars, all the liars rolled into one little annoying package grrrrrHe couldnt speak the truth if it jumped up and bit him in the bum. Ive been with one of them myself, lied all the way through, then only admitted things after we split. The amount of times i said to him, i know you're lying, you know you're lying, if your conscience is cool with that then fine.Then once you do find out for sure, you just know most of it was one big lie. I just dont get how people can look you in the eye and lie and my one even swore on his daughters life about something he later admitted was a lie. They dont care.But no matter what you find out about and they tell you, you can bet your bottom dollar there are an ocean of things you DONT, and never will, know about.There are 2 things in life ive got pet hates about and thats lying and being used.Take comfort in the fact he will do the same to the current squeeze hes got and their lives will just go round and round in loads of miserable circles. Would be fun to watch and chuckle about, but you actually have an honest life to get on with.Thats what i do.Take careC xxxxx
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reader, Country Woman +, writes (31 July 2007):
 Like you have already said, he is a habitual liar and when someone has been doing it for so long they can't break the habit without getting professional help.
I can't believe you have been the one to walk away from your home but as he bullied you I can appreciate the stress you were under.
Don't go through any more as the things that need to be resolved can be done through a solicitor regarding the property and as far as post is concerned, contact Royal Mail and get all post forwarded directly to your mum's address so that nothing goes astray. I think you may be able to register something online to stop any junk mail but I am not sure of the address for that.
Why do you care where he is, there is obviously still a part of you that does care and that is what is bugging you.
Don't worry that he is lying, you don't need to talk to him again apart from sorting out getting your belongings out of the house but that can be done at your pace and not his, do you still have keys to the house or has he changed locks or something.
Don't leave things at the house that are yours if his gf is around, don't worry about what she wears, like you say she is welcome to him and you HAVE had a lucky escape.
Get things sorted out legally and professionally I bet he will soon be in touch when he gets a letter from your solicitor, don't back down on anything get what is rightfully yours OK.
Don't take the crap anymore, he does not know how to be honest and that is just the character he is.
He thinks by lying he is being clever, but unfortuately to be a very good liar you have to remember what has been said and you already know the truth so he is lousy at lying.
Move on with your life and get things done professionally, he won't know what's hit him as he probably things that the previous bullying has weakened you, show him the ballsy woman that you are and get what is yours OK.
Here for you whenever OK.
BFN
Take Care.
Country Woman
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