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writes:I graduate this month and I turn 18 in July. I don't plan on staying in town when I go to college and my boyfriend doesn't want me to be alone (good thing too). So I told my father and he flipped saying "not while he [my father] is still around." I don't get why he's doing this and I'm pretty sure I told him the "when I'm 18," part. Any possibilities as to why he's doing this? Reply to this Question
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reader, the vampire lestat +, writes (6 December 2009):
 i agree with pancakes rule hes your father but your father needs to understand that if you turn 18 you are free to do whatever you want if you still live in his house when your 18 then he has the right if you move then he just has to accept that you are an adult and you want to move on with your life make your own decisions and mistakes so just tell him if that doesn't work then just tell him when the time comes he has to accept whats going on...hope this helped
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reader, pancakes rule  +, writes (5 December 2009):
 He is your father and all parents can be a bit over protective. He probably still sees you as his little girl and may not want you to leave at all. Children moving out can be very emotional for parents and if you're going to be living with your boyfriend, then he may not like the idea of you sleeping in the same bed as him every night and having sex.He may think at 18 that you're too irresponsible, there's no way of me knowing for sure, but you could try talking to him about it or ask your mum if she knows what his problem is.good luckxx
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reader, baddogbj  +, writes (5 December 2009):
 How long have you had his boyfriend? Has your father shown other signs of not approving of him?
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reader, Aunty BimBim  +, writes (5 December 2009):
 sure, he is protecting you, he doesnt want you to get into a live in situation with a boy. He wants you to see the world a little and experience all it has to offer before you settle down playing wifey poo to some pimply youth.
Your father believes that as he helped create you, and since then has invested time, and effort, and love, not to mention money in you, that he has some say in what happens next in your life.
If you are giving your father the "when I turn 18" speech i am sure you are including the "I will totally support myself when i am 18 because I will not be asking you to do it" as well.
Or are you wanting to have the joys of being 18 and doing what you want, but not the responsibilities?
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