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writes:So this guy im seein for six months now, and him and I have small fights once and a while, but this time I did not talk to him for over 2 weeks, and he was the one for the first time to cave and call me. So we had a viste and talked about everything that bothered us about each other and he said he missed me and was getting worried about me. I just wonder why is he beenin so nice to me now? He is now starting to buy me things and go the extra mile for me when I come over like give me a massage and he never used to do these things before. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 January 2012): Your passive/aggressive manipulation may well have worked.
I find it quite strange that none of the aunts mentioned how childish ignoring him for 2 weeks was or that communication is the foundation of all good relationships.
Well OP all I can say is he's a bit of a sap really. If that were me and a 6 month long girlfriend decided to not talk to me for two weeks. I would have simply gotten rid of her.
I really do find it strange that none of the previous aunts even mentioned this, because that's not really okay and if you both are unable to find ways to talk things out insetad of reverting to this kind of thing the next argument may well be unresolvable, because you've made it a kind of joust thing, you know? "Who will be the first to back down." Maybe next time he won't cave.
Be careful OP, it may have worked this time but it won't always work, trust me that kind of thing gets old and eventually you spend more time ignoring each other than actually being together.
So I advise you to talk things out next time, try and resolve it through communication instead of blackouts. They're a recipe for a bad relationship. You'll see OP, once the shine wears off and the honeymoon period ends he'll have a far lower tolerance to this kind of game.
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reader, k_c100  +, writes (3 January 2012):
 Well I guess those 2 weeks where you didnt speak to him scared him, he must have thought he was going to lose you so he is now being nice in order to ensure he makes you happy and doesnt lose you.
Just be happy he has picked his ideas up and is treating you better, that talk you had worked and now he is making more effort - so enjoy it and stop worrying!
I hope this helps and good luck!
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reader, emogurl321  +, writes (3 January 2012):
 well honey i hate to say this but if you haven't had sex with him before maybe that's what hes aiming towards.! (:
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reader, bearN  +, writes (3 January 2012):
 There is nothing so suspicious about it. I think he understood his mistake of always having arguments. Which is upsetting you the most. I think you should feel happy now . For the fact he is making an extra effort to keep you happy.I don't think there is anything bad in it. I would suggest enjoy being with him.And don't think too much about the matter. Sounds funny him giving you a massage lol. Cute guy.
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