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writes: Hello, when I feel comfortable and happy in my relationship and my boyfriend does things that make me think he's the right guy for me, then he all of a sudden starts acting completely the opposite like taking ages to reply to my calls etc...why is it that when I'm content he suddenly changes? Reply to this Question
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reader, soletshearit +, writes (5 May 2006):
 I think a lot of relationships work like this...usually when you don't understand eachother completely! Its like game playing, that change when you come content is him trying not to let you win the game! Its like the chase...he wins you then you win him! Back and forth! You need to communicate with him and tell him how you feel...if you are together a long time then you shouldn't be like that, if its still in early enough stages then it will probably fade out...the other suggestion is to keep him on his toes all the time and always lead the chase! Good luck!
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reader, Country Woman  +, writes (5 May 2006):
 I think truly understanding one another is the key here.
You may think everything is rosey but infact he has issues and perhaps by you becoming more settled and content this scares him so an upset in the balance spices things up again and keeps you on your toes.
How long have you been with your boyfriend?
How old are you both?
Perhaps it is time for you both to talk things through thoroughly and find out why these differences are cropping up. Are you compatible, do you like the same things or is there a lack of communication so that one person is happy and the other one is miserable because you don't enjoy doing the same things?
I think the only way you will find out the truth here is by being brutally honest with him and also asking him what he feels right now.
If it keeps happening then there is a lot that is not being said and if you want to have a future together you must talk about the things that matter and not the trivial things instead.
Let me know how things go and perhaps let me know the answers to what I have asked when you get a chance.
Best of luck.
BFN
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