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writes:why is it that i find that many girls are so cold towards me...can someone ( preferably female) tell me if these scenarios are normal ?1)I like to say hi or smile to girls in the street,but they rudely walk by without saying hi back. 2)Or if i hold doors open for women, they are so rude that they dont acknowledge it!3)or if im in a club and try to talk to a girl in a group, i quite often get another female of the group telling me to back off even if the girl i was talking to me seems to like me!its as if their jealous that i've given their friend the attention and not them!i find this quite annoying and am starting to go off women! is this natural? or is it something i could be doing wrong?
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reader, pica +, writes (23 October 2006):
Do men always acknowledge door-holding or do you not bother about them anyway? Have to be brutal, the hitting on strangers in the street is quite creepy; if you are in a constant trying-to-pick-up mode you are probably giving off a rather unattractive vibe and putting women off. It's also odd that you think women would feel jealous about your attentions.. the law of averages would mean someone would respond positively at some point - if you are getting continual knock-backs then maybe you are putting yourelf across in a bad way. Relax, stop trying too hard - but don't start 'not trying' too hard either ..
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reader, anon2907  +, writes (23 October 2006):
 Hey,
I'm not surprised by your scenarios at all, which is a bit of a shame.
I have to say, if someone said hello to me in the street I'd think they were mad - or after something.
The door thing - that's just rude girls - lucky escape!
The thing with the girls in a crowd - I'd not worry too much - that's just girls being protective. Advice: If that happens again, say to the girl,
'Oh, I'm sorry, I didn't realise I was interrupting a girls night out, have a great evening! Maybe catch you later.'
That way, she goes back to her mates saying how nice you were about it - and if she likes you, she'll come and speak to you later - or make it obvious she'd like you to go back to talk to her!
Carry on being friendly and so on, like the others said, it'll pay off one day - and people would rather speak to the friendly guy than the rude guy!
Good luck,
Anon2907
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reader, xLEAHx +, writes (23 October 2006):
 Hi there keith,
This is quite normal from some women ,there are alot of women that constantly think that guys are hitting on them all the time and they have very bad attitudes..you sound like a very polite person saying hello and holding doors open and if it was me id smile and say hello back and thankyou for opening a door for me..but thats just me its called being a polite well manored person..but some womwn think 'weirdo'whys he smiling and saying hello to me..and if you start to talk to a girl when out in a club..there proberly not out looking but just out to have a good time with thier mates and not on the pull..its quite normal to get rejected by girls this way..you just carry on doing what you normally do and you willl eventually get somewhere..were not all cold and insensitive..
GOOD LUCK
xLEAHx
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reader, beanybikes +, writes (22 October 2006):
i dont really understand why women have reacted like this towards you. if it was me in the nightclub i would of politely said that i wasn't interested. but i have to say when you approch some one in a group to chat there friends usually would jump in its not about being jealous. friends just like to look out for each other. i wouldn't take personaly.
i have to admit alot of girls do have there bad days and then there good days. its probably just bad timing for you.
dont worry about it you will meet the right one some day.
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