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36-40,
*uaris
writes:Why is it that people cant just be honest with their partners? For instance a guy in my gf's class (Im a junior shes a freshman) told me she flashed him on a bus in junior high and this bothered me. FOUR different times it came up and I asked her if it were true and it took me till the fourth time for her to tell me that she did. The first three times she said no. Then shell turn around and think its wrong of me to keep asking her about other things that Im curious about if shes answered me before. But if shes lied before doesnt that give me some justification. I guess what im asking is: is it understandable to keep things like this from your partner, or even bigger things like whether or not you are a virgin? Reply to this Question
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reader, mimisoph3 +, writes (23 February 2009):
 idk wat to tell u but if u lost a little respect for her if u really want her then u tell her,and if she wants to get the full respect bak then u shoudn't break up wit her.but if u dont feel like she'll change or have honestly wit her then let her go.
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reader, Luaris +, writes (22 February 2009):
Luaris is verified as being by the original poster of the question well mimisoph3 she did it a year ago way before we got togehter. I mean id feel that way if she did that now. I've just kinda lost a little respect for her that she did that in the first place before we got together and I've lost a litle trust that she didnt tell me at first. Should I still break-up with her and stuff you think?
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reader, mimisoph3 +, writes (16 February 2009):
its not a good thing at all,your gf is a liar and she probably will never stop becuase thats what shes born to do...the think i dont understand is why are you with her if she flashed someone i would be pissed and i would never forgive them..i think youre blind or scared to see her true colors...and she isnt for you,you can do better with someone way honest...
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 February 2009): You guys are trying to apply a bunch of reason and fairness to subject that has nothing to do with these things.If your woman isn't telling you the truth about her sexual behavior, then what's to say that it's really YOUR kids that she gives birth to and then you work to support for the next 20 years? Only DNA testing and birth control can keep a man from getting burned, and neither one existed two generations ago. So evolution did what it had to do: It made men EXTREMELY sensitive to their woman deceiving them about ANYTHING sexual she's done, past or present. This stuff was not necessary for women to feel, but VERY necessary for men to feel.So when your woman lies to you about anything sexual, it probably bothers the living shit out of you. Permanently.
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