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writes:hi im a 19 female ive never done this before but i was just wanting some advice.i was wondering why is it that i can never have an actual orgasm. my friend said that shes only had one and shes 20 and she was kinda wonderin too why she cant have anymore i mean like we get that tingle sensation but as far as an actual orgasm it doesnt happen. why is that?{we both wanted to know we're not lesbians we have sex with men}{just to let you know}
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reader, djjazzyjeff  +, writes (1 June 2007):
Basically take away penetration from your sex life, - get your bloke licking and tickling, caressing and cuddling, - get pleasure without penetration and then introduce it slowly, - you will enjoy this more and feel under less pressure too!!Good luck
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reader, WeLoveMe +, writes (1 June 2007):
 Your not alone. Alot of women have trouble coming to orgasm, some women just can't orgasm at all. It's all about clitoral stimulation, not many woman can orgasm through penetrative sex. You just need to explore your body some more maybe, see what you like and what you don't like. It's not the end of the world if you find you still can't, as long as you still find pleasure.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 June 2007): Take time, foreplay is the key. Get him to give you oral that should get you off. My girl has not had an orgasm and I have gone at it for 20 min and she says it is nice but she does not get an orgasm. But I give her oral and she is over in a few min! Every one is different. Get him to give you a all over massage with oil let him play with your pussy for a while until you almost are going to cum then get him to insert his cock. See how you go.
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reader, Helen Help! :) +, writes (1 June 2007):
 Hi ya
Did u no tht around 80% of women can not have an orgasm thru just penatration (just the penis going in and out) im one of them so your not alone i have to other stimulation as well like being rubbed wile having sex. If your just curious weather to see if you can get one either use a vibrator the bunny ears on a rampant rabbit are brilliant on your clitorous that always seems to do the job lol or u cud use household things like the bk of an eletric tooth brush never tried that myself but heard it works or maybe a back massarger or simply just your fingers or your partners have fun experiementing :) good luck
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reader, Mushgirl +, writes (1 June 2007):
 It could be for a number of reasons. For example, if you think about having an orgasm at the time, it's often less likely to happen. Also if you're not really turned on - make sure your guy knows how to!
Some women find it harder to orgasm than others, and if I were you I wouldn't worry - it'll happen sooner or later.
try this link : http://www.bbc.co.uk/relationships/sex_and_sexual_health/enjsex_orgasms.shtml#quality_not_quantity
Good luck xxx
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reader, howcomehoney  +, writes (1 June 2007):
 Are you talking about on your own or during sex? I have a funny thing - during sex, I find it a lot harder to have an orgasm. The more turned-on I am, the less likely I am to have an orgasm. Why? No idea. But there you are. It doesn't mean I don't get any pleasure out of sex - the reverse in fact, I love it, and the challenge makes it even more fun.
If you can't have one on your own, work on it. Relax, take the phone off the hook (there's nothing worse than your mother calling at the wrong moment), find yourself some... uh... stimulating material, get your head full of pictures and go for it. Find out what your body likes. Everyone likes different things so take the time to get to know yourself and see what makes you tick. You'll get there in the end, and when you know what turns you on, you can start working on it with your partner. Apparently it's a lot easier to have an orgasm during foreplay than during intercourse? (I don't know, sorry, I don't have sex with men so am a little hazy on the subject.) Good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 June 2007): Dear can't have an orgasm.Perhaps it's because you don't understand your genital sexual make-up. So lets have a quickie in sex 101, okay. First off you'll need to become quite intimate with your vagina,and its wonderful make-up. Your vaginal lips, when closed, may look like just one set of lips, But the vagina really has two sets of vaginal lips. The outermost lips are called the Major Labia, Labia meaning lips. And if you are not in the state of sexual arousal these outer lips rest closed over the Minor Labia,which are your innermost set of vaginal lips. At the upper junction,where the Minor Labia come together is the CLITORIS, or as I call it "A WOMAN'S LOVEBUTTON".IT'S NOT VERY large nor is it so deep that your fingers can't reach it, even with your vagina closed. However the best time to see the clitoris is when your vagina has fully opened-up. All female orgasms are the results of direct, manual or oral stimulation, stroking of the clitoris. Sometimes when a man's penis is stroking a woman's vagina, this indirect clitoral stimulation can induce an orgasm, but in most cases only one woman out of three will have an orgasm with penile-vaginal intercourse. Both gender need engage in FOREPLAY, NO, IT'S NOT ABOUT FOOTBALL FOREPLAY is all of that heavenly touching, hugging and kissing us guys/gals do to our partners body, or our own genitals if it's sex
for one. Lots of us guys want to get sex over with ASAP, as soon as possible. However if the vagina isn't fully opened-up, that's no time for a penis to come-a calling, Also keep in mind that the penis needs to be lubricated for any prolonged vaginal stroking. A man's so called LOVEBUTTON can be found at the outermost end of his penis,it's called "THE GLANS OF PENIS, And it being exposed in most cases, always receives direct LOVEBUTTON stimulation, us males don't really have too many orgasmic problems.When it comes to our orgasms. I would say off hand that you need to learn how to bring youself to orgasms by hand stimulation of your clitoris, masturbation, or your partner can be a great help. All couples should become comfortable in pleasing each other in and out of the bed. Do hope this letter is helpful to you. And to really enjoy your sexuality read some good books.
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