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writes:Why is it that girls Im not attracted to are attracted to me?I have had this problem for over a year now and I really can't figure it out. To be fair its not a problem but I wish girls who I was interested in were more interested in me. Here is what I have going for me (what I have heard from girls I loved but won't date me)I am smart, funny, a good listener, not an ass, I can cook, Im sympathetic and charismatic, built, and tall.Now I just don't know why most girls I like never like me enough to date.I am picky about who I like but not that picky, I prefer blondes for some reason I guess thats just my type of girl I like but Im not against dating different. I like athletic builds but not girls like the victorias secret models (don't get me wrong they are beautiful just sometimes to skinny) and since I am 6'3 or 4" I like girls around 5'5 to 5'8 once again not against dating someone shorter or taller than that. For some reason I am put in the friends zone by the "hot girls" as my friends say or asked out by the "less attractive girls" I am stuck in this cycle and its hard cause highschool is vicious. Im not complaining about it just asking why this is. My guess is the girls I am not that into hear from other girls that Im really sweet? and they think Im gonna date them? (trying not to sound like an ass) If anyone has some advice it would be much appreciated... also advice on walking up to girls and starting a conversation possibly getting their number. I am labeled as not a player by this girl I like and would like to bump up the confidence a little because that would help. thanks again everyone!!!
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reader, justfriends +, writes (6 June 2011):
justfriends is verified as being by the original poster of the question I like both of those answers because they are honest and make really good points, Thanks guys I will try some of that stuff and hopefully it works out
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 June 2011): It's the way of the world.I am a blonde, caucasian guy. I always have shorter Latinas, Asians, Indians, and black women interested in me, but I really find tall, blonde girls most attractive. I am 38 years old and to this point in my life I have never dated a blonde. (Brunette caucasians, yes.)What I did was accept that maybe those blonde girls want to date dark-haired guys. (I had one tell me straight up that I was cute, but she liked darker features.) Lots of guys have things for blondes and here in the US they are in the minority and thus in demand. Apparently I am not attractive enough to win those contests. I decided: Why fight what works? My current girlfriend is Puerto Rican and she is so sexy and so wonderful I wouldn't trade her for any blonde girl on the planet. Also, you will find that once you are attached to a girl then other women will find you more desirable, too. Women are competitive like that. In fact, one tactic to date a really hot girl is to date her friend first so that she can see the kind of guy you are if maybe you don't quite do it for her in the looks department. I am not saying to USE one of these other girls, but keep an open mind to the possibilities. Try dating one of these girls you feel is beneath you and maybe you will learn something about yourself.
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reader, spinnaker +, writes (5 June 2011):
 Join the club my friend. When you get in your 30's and beyond it gets even more fun. I don't prefer to date divorced people and when I politely say I am not interested because the other person is divorced - I wish I had captain america's shield to deflect all the insults headed my way.
Keep in mind that while you are aware of all of those admirable qualities such as cooking, good listener and the like, everyone else is not.
The best way to approach someone is to get into a general conversation. If you are pushy with an ulterior motive (like getting her number) you lost the game before you even sat down to play - women smell an ulterior motive from miles away.
Don't rush anything, take interest and let those qualities you have come out in different ways. Smile, make eye contact and say Hi. A good ice breaker is simply saying," Would you mind if I walked you to class?"
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