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30-35,
*olaBolla
writes:He's one of the most confident guys I know and he's really popular; he has absolutely no problem striking off a conversation with anyone. We went on a trip together and I think he likes me because I always catch him staring at me and his friend smirks at us whenever we stand close.We used to have really deep 1-on-1 conversations with each other when we were alone, but lately, whenever he's with me he seems depressed or wistful, and I have to carry the whole conversation. The second we'll run into someone else he'll lighten up but when he's with me he acts really sweet, but something is troubling him and he acts somewhat detached.Lately, he can hardly look me in the eye and he WILL NOT come up and start talking to me unless I'm RIGHT next to him. He's irritatingly shy with me and it's making me really miserable cuz he wasn't like this before.If I bore him or he doesn't want to talk to me, why does he always initiate contact? And why has this whole depressed thing started now (3 month point) and ONLY with me? Is he debating whether or not to confess?
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (9 November 2010):
 I think if am honest he has realised that he has developed feelings for you and he may be confident but he is not confident enough to confess this to you and it is making him shy around you, as for the depression part am not entirely sure maybe he is seeking your attention and hoping that you notice his change in behaviour and ask him whats wrong.
You need to be honest with him the next time he acts like this in front of you ask him whats the matter with him, am guessing he is'nt going to confess to liking you though because he is scared you will reject him or laugh in his face that is why he has this barrier up, to protect himself.
If you like him more than a friend then maybe you could ask him out on a date get things rolling, but if you just want him as your friend then i guess you need to just ask him why he is acting the way he is and try and get him out of his shell, goodluck.
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reader, Dorothy Dix  +, writes (9 November 2010):
Hi there. Sometimes guys go all quiet and shy and tongue tied, when they start to have deeper feelings for girls.
It's possible this is what is happening with him.
Just relax and keep it light and friendly, so he doesn't feel pressured to carry on some fascinating conversation with you.
Talk about anything and everything, enjoy his company and have fun.
Over time he will become more confident and come out of his shell a bit more. But don't try to drag it out of him, it's just his way. The main thing is you are speaking to each other, and that's a great start. Just don't expect too much from him at the moment. He is a bit shy - that's perfectly normal.
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