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36-40,
*razycat27
writes:There's this guy I used to work with who recently got transfered and I've fallen pretty hard for him , we both like to flirt and muck around and talk about sex with each other .. Hes one of the nicest guys I know and someone who I can talk to .. He always seems to put a smile on my face no matter how bad of day ive had .. I've recently added him to fb and found out he had a mrs !! I was quite devastated I had no clue cos we often spoke about me being single and he never mentioned he was taken . Thing is he's been talking to me a fair bit on there and he said to me the other night that he's over being in a relationship and that hes over not getting any and that he wants to be single and he basically said he wants to have sex with me .. When we talk he's always doing the ;) :p on most sentences.. And being very flirtatious I dont know what to do , I fell for him before I knew he was taken now I can't get him out of my head I think there is a connection but I can't act on it !!! Why is he still flirting and saying this stuff .. Does he like me or is he playing with me ... He knows I wouldn't make a move if he's taken help
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 June 2011): Huge red flags stay away and be straight with him that it was embarrasing to find out that he had a girlfriend/wife.
Leave it at that.
He needs to hear that this behaviour is not acceptable.
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reader, Drew21  +, writes (7 June 2011):
 Have you told him that you wouldn't make a move on him if he's in a relationship?
I'm a bit unclear, when you say he has a Mrs., does that mean he's actually married? Or is he only dating this other girl?
Really what it comes down to is: Do you want to be "the other girl?"
Are you looking for a serious relationship with this guy?
Remember, he apparently IS in a serious relationship and seems to have no qualms cheating on his partner.
What makes you think he won't eventually do that to you, as well?
This guy has major red flags.
I would tell him that you won't make a move unless he's single. See what he says. If he's willing to break up with his girlfriend, then fine. If he's not?
Well, what's the point? At that stage i would just try to avoid him as best as possible.
Someone will wind up getting hurt with this one.
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