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writes:my boyfriend and i of 17 months broke up march 15th we have a 8 month old daughter.... he has been saying he is dating someone we stopped talking and stopped seeing each other i had begged him over and over and over for 3 days i texted him none stop i called him. and then he said that there was someone else i stopped texting him i left him alone. he said he didn't have feelings for me anymore. but then i started texting him again just talking about random stuff. then i stopped texting him i did the no contact rule i didn't text him for almost 2 days then saturday i got a text from him asking if i had the baby i said yea he said he wanted to see her he came over he kept staring at me we laughed and talked about the baby. he kept getting closer to me. then on sunday i got a text from him again and he asked if i was at home. i said yea. the thing is he never came over to see the baby like he had said he would.he said that the girl he was dating got up set with him and he had to fix things with her so he wouldnt be able to make to see the baby.then Monday night he texted me first again and said hey sorry to bother you but i have no where to stay tonight can i stay at your house. he came to my house he started poking me and tickling me. we talked and stuff and i said so did you fix things with your girlfriend last night he said i sure did in like a sarcastic voice i said then what was you doing last night he said texting you. then he said can we cuddle im cold but he wasnt cold. he cuddled with me i told him its not right its cheating cause he has a girlfriend he said its not cheating. then he was wanting to do sex i said no you have a girlfriend he said oh yea. then he said well she isn't really my girlfriend i asked him why he said he liked her but she was a freak. then i asked him why he wouldnt ask her out he said cause he didnt want to, then he said he didnt wanna get hurt, then it was cause it wasnt the right time.. we did end up doing sex. i know BAD mistake. he said he needed to stay at my house for a week cause their was no electricity at his house the thing is i found out the he does have electricity at his house. he cuddled with me all night. then last night tuesday he stayed the night with me again we was texting and i asked him if he was over me he said getting there. again he cuddled with me, wanted to do sex but this time i said no tha why you need a girlfriend he said then what are you i said your ex girlfriend. i asked him when he was going to ask the girl out that he has been saying he is dating he said he wasnt cause of her best friend he is a guy and he said he dont want to have to fight over her. he also said he didn't want a girlfriend. also i looked at his phone and my name in his phone is still "My Chicken" thats my pet nick name from him. he also has a picture of me and him as my contact photo. i asked him why he still had my name like that in his phone he said because.. then when i was sleeping i felt him cuddling with me then he tried to kiss me but i wouldnt let him so he held my head and kissed me..he stayed again last night (wensday) he wanted to cuddle i said no because he had told me that he hung out with the girl he is planning to date. he said she knows that im staying with you and she is fine with it. i said well you need to find a girlfriend he was like no i don't i said yea you do. i said a few days ago you said that you was over me. he was like no i didn't i said yea you did. i said we need to get over eachother and he said why i said because your going to be dating someone soon he said it could be months before he dates this girl. i said well cuddling isn't going to get us over each other. then today i told him that i decided that since your going to be dating someone you just need to be with her and not me even tho your not dating her your still a player cause you hangout with her and then come stay the night with me and do sex with me your just using me and its not right. he said so what im i suppose to do i never got a text back. why is he acting like this now that we have been broke up for 4 weeks now
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reader, jinxx  +, writes (13 April 2012):
 He's playing you for a fool, and you're letting him do it. First thing you need to do is get this guy out of your house. He's not your boyfriend, he's not your responsibility. Allowing him to sleep with you, to kiss you, to have sex with you... isn't right. He's getting all the benefits without doing any of the work. Is that what you want for yourself? The second thing, and the thing that really bothers me, is the fact that he didn't come over to see his daughter because his girlfriend was upset. He should be placing her (his daughter, NOT his gf) before anything and everyone else. This just speaks volumes about his maturity, or lack thereof. Kick this guy to the curb, and move on. You're a mother now, and you need someone dependable in your life. He isn't it.
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reader, Foot-In-My-Mouth  +, writes (13 April 2012):
 What a selfish, manipulative player he is! I'd suggest you cut him off entirely. You don't want your child to grow up around a father who sleeps around, uses people and acts like a classic cad.
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reader, Redbaglover9  +, writes (13 April 2012):
HE IS USING YOU. Simple as that. You either ask him what's going on or ask him to get out. If he needs to see the baby, he can come on certain days and visit her. Don't let him come near you and 'cuddle'. In the end when he'll slam the door on your face again like he did 4 weeks ago, your the one who will be hurt again. You need to be serious. Focus more on your baby right now. Do you feel good when you do this? I'm pretty sure you don't. Life's going to be like this. You need to be strong and get certain people out of your life who always hurt you. Sorry for being harsh but it's experience. Good luck :)
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reader, Wisdom  +, writes (13 April 2012):
 Its called having your cake and eating it too. He is getting sex from two women and not having to take any responsibility.
This man is supposed to be a father and you a mother. Its time for you to step away from him unitl he grows up. You have not just you but a baby to think about.
good luck
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