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reader, anonymous, writes (27 May 2008): Why do you want to be fingered? Bloody hell. Slow down, this is just over the top and unnecessary! If he doesn't want to finger you, then so what! I'm glad one of you has realised you have a whole life ahead to do things like that.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 May 2008): And I have to agree with rhythmandblues2. Where the hell are your parents allowing two CHILDREN to do this stuff? They should be ashamed of themselves and of you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 May 2008): If he doesn't want to, have some respect for his feelings and STOP pressuring him. If he doesn't want to then you're just going to have to get over it.
Maybe he's the only one with the sense to realise that as you've only just kissed it's best to SLOW THE HELL DOWN and stop giving yourselves away so easily.
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reader, Cherubic  +, writes (27 May 2008):
He, like you, is only a small child and does not feel comfortable doing adult things that shouldn't be occuring at your age.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 May 2008): Actually so am I sometimes. Well, my first time then it was OK.
Can I just point out, that your age is probably a huge factor. Although your probably growing up really fast and maturing really quickly, your body may not be following suite. He is probably also scared because he should be of a similar age, and wouldn't know 'what to find' as so to speak.
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reader, nIcE  +, writes (25 May 2008):
 your 12, maybe thats why.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 May 2008): okay but hes felt me up and everything like that he almost did friday but chickened out also we've made out and kissed and everything but sex also we are not virgins we have not had sex 2gether but with someone else he really respects me and he wants to finger me and he nos i want him to but everytime he chickens out!
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 May 2008): he probly hasent hit puberty yet and doesnt have the the "feelings" as you just do what i do finger yourself it is completly normal
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 May 2008): Really, where are your parents? Why at the age of 12 are you asking some boy to do this to you? You are moving way too fast and this is very disturbing and it is obviously disturbing this boy who would like to respect you and doesn't want to do something he knows is not right...and he may be worried about his reputation by associating with you.....have you done this before with other boys? Boys talk.
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reader, Dr Vendetta  +, writes (24 May 2008):
 being anally raped in prison for having sex with a minor might be a good reason.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 May 2008): ok, so he's 12. And so are you. Maybe this boy isn't ready to do anything like that with you yet, which is fair enough as he is too young and has the rest of his life ahead of him. It's fine to be in a relationship, but don't go any further at the tender age of 12, and don't pressure the poor boy into anything.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 May 2008): I am 12 to and i have my imaginings about having sex with some persion my one age but i never would have sex.you have the rest of your life to do stuff like that at least tell me you haven not lost your virginety all ready.and to repley to your question probibaly why he doesnt want to finger you is because he thinks what he has done already is REALY BAD!!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 May 2008): hunny its probablly because you are so young. dont rush into this.
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reader, bday121 +, writes (24 May 2008):
 He might be afraid because he doesn't know how to do it. He's afraid he'll do it all wrong and embarrass himself. Reassure him that it's ok if he's inexperienced, you'll guide him through it. On the other hand, though, you two seem to be pretty young. Maybe he's just not ready for imtimate things like that.
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