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writes: Hi there,So I was dating this girl who is a couple years younger than me and still in college. I started dating her on her Spring break and things seemed to go well from there. We did a lot of texting, facebook messages, phonecalls here and there (I'm not much of a phone person) and I went to visit her a couple of times at school. This one time she came over my place and we fooled around a little bit too. So, starting a few weeks ago, all of a sudden she started being less responsive to my texts and emails. Then she hinted that things might have to end when she goes back to school at the end of the summer. I told her if she didn't want to do the distance thing, that was fine, I'd understand. She responded that we'll play it by ear. Anyway, she had her final exams and we talked a little less than normal, I just assumed she was really busy with stuff, and I was really looking forward to when she came home from school so we could see eachother more. So she came home and she sends the ominous text that she's worried to hang out with me. "Why get attached when we'll both be leaving?" I sent her a text about how much I liked her and how much I was looking forward to spending time with her. No Response. So I texted back that I was OK if she wanted to end things, I completely understand. She texts back OK and says goodnight.The next day I was completely distraught. I know we never got the chance to get into a serious relationship and that's never what it was, but I was completely into her and wanted to see where things went. Things were good for a while too, this really came out of nowhere to me. So I texted her and said I didn't want to end things like that, I'd like to see her again, but I'd like to talk to her about her concerns first. I didn't get a response, so later that day I texted again saying I was available to talk if she wanted. She said she just didn't want to get attached, and that she was sure I felt the same way. I DON'T!!! And I texted her back this, but I said if that's really how she felt than now was the best time to end things, but I wish I met her a little later. She texts me back but doesn't answer anything and just says goodnight and avoids what I said in my text basically.So... I realize I made this into much more of a thing and invested much more into it than she did. But, I'd really like to salvage this if at all possible. Does anyone have any advice for this situation? I know she's still in college and probably just want's to be single and carefree, but why would she have started dating me in the first place?Thanks so much in advance!Mike
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reader, pepper27  +, writes (25 May 2008):
 Hi Hunny
You met someone who didnt want to get close to anyone, She could have gone around it a better way and explained to you it was a bit of fun during her stay. The more you text the more she will ignore she knows you like her sweetheart, My advise to you is dont get intouch how ever hard this is as she knows how you feel, She will contact you if she has any feelings at all..It not you never think that, Its just the fact that she probably doesnt at this moment in time no what she wants..Yes she could have told you to your face how she felt but she couldnt do it. She took the easy way out sweetheart and its painfull I no, Be strong and let this go. If she wants you she know were you are hunny...The more you get or try to get intouch the faster she will run in the opposite direction..For you I hope she gets intouch but if not sweetheart dont let this hurt your heart as it wasnt ment to be and there is someone out there for you who will treat you with the respect you deserve..TAKE CARE WITH LOVE N HUGS MANDY XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX
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