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anonymous
writes:my work colleague has been paying me extreme compliments lately. hes always worried aout me and calls and texts loads. he says he loves working with me and really likes my company. he has a girlfriend of 5 years and says he thinks i look nice and stuff, weve worked together closely recently.im single and dont want to cause problems and he doesnt strike me as a cheater so why is he doing this ?
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 June 2012): Sounds like it's the thrill of the chase for him. He is probably bored in his relationship. Yeah, don't become the "other woman."
He will never leave his girlfriend. Unfortunately, I have been the "bit on the side" myself, a few times actually... You fall in love together, have sex & the end is always bitter because they don't choose you.
I would break ties with this guy if I were you, it's just not a good idea.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 June 2012): Sounds like he's trying to get into your underwear, perhaps things aren't going as well as they could be with his girlfriend. If you're not interested in him you need to just be honest and tell him his behaviour is bothering you.
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reader, tulip100  +, writes (23 June 2012):
he is crossing the boundaries of a work relationship and you should be wary of him. next time youre chatting to him, ask how his girlfriend is. or ask, what are you and your girlfriend doing this weekend. that will signal to him that you know he has a girlfriend, that you expect them to be acting as a couple, and that you see him as being attached.
dont go for drinks etc with him. or if he suggests it, suggest a foursome with his girlfriend (find a guy to take along if you dont have one already).
friends is great. getting in a mess isnt.
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reader, AuntyEm +, writes (23 June 2012):
 Maybe he's working his way up to make you his bit on the side...seems to be making moves in that direction by his actions.
He will think he can control it and not let it go further but if you develop feelings for him, what will you do if he turns the tables on you and starts quoting that he's in a relationship.
Why do people do this?...Because they get a thrill out of it and they think they won't get found out and they think that they have control over things...
Get involved if you must, butyou are playing with fire if things develop.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 June 2012): Why does he have your phone number? I would definitely set up boundaries because you do not want to be that other woman.
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