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*ayedreas
writes:I'm a sophomore in college, and I've developed a crush on a freshman. We're in band together, and play the saxophone. Last week, I invited him to a party at a friend's apartment, and he said that he'd come. When the weekend arrived, and I had been at the party for a little over an hour, I send him a text and asked if he was coming. (I'd tried to give him directions the day before, but failed miserably at it.)He responded fairly quickly, saying that he was feeling sick, and wouldn't be coming. Admittedly, I'd already been drinking at that point, and I ended up texting him that I wished that he was there, and stuff along those lines. We flirted back and forth for quite a while, and ended up playing 21 questions. We started out with basic things like "What's your favorite color?" and ended up discussing what attracts him to a woman, and me to a man.Based on the answers we gave, we are both pretty like-minded, and we were even in agreement on this point.When I told him that we should hang out some time, he agreed and said that it was only a matter of when.We agreed on Thursday at 1 for lunch. Nothing major.We texted from 11 until 5 a.m.Fast forward to the following Tuesday;We had band practice, and we'd texted a little bit that day, too. (It was about school stuff. Recital class, etc.)When our section got together, he stood nearby and said nothing. Not one word to me for two hours. I just shook my head at the situation.After Wednesday's band practice, and still not one word from him, I sent him a text message afterwards, and asked him if he would still like to hang out on Thursday.He replied: "Uhhhhhhh yeah, if I can. I don't remember exactly what I have going on tomorrow. It should be okay though."My response was: "Ehrm...why so awkward, bro? Why haven't you said much?"Him: "heh? what you mean?"Me: "I feel like you don't wanna talk to me in person."...and that was the end of the conversation.I haven't texted him since, and I refuse to. Needless to say, we didn't hang out today, and at band practice, he all but ran away from me. (he was standing with a group of my friends, and when I went to speak with one of them, he left the group)I'm absolutely and utterly confused. I can deal with him not having the same feelings as I do; that's not an issue. I just don't understand what I did wrong. Is he ticked at me? What? I've never seen such; I'd appreciate some input. :/
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reader, Duckyhelp  +, writes (24 September 2010):
 Just being an immature guy. You sound like a good person and know what your doing already. Dont text him and dont bother to try and talk to him. Just get on like you never met him, he might feel like he likes you afterall, but you have to choose whether you would risk what just happened to happen again.
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reader, Duckyhelp +, writes (24 September 2010):
Just being an immature guy. You sound like a good person and know what your doing already. Dont text him and dont bother to try and talk to him. Just get on like you never met him, he might feel like he likes you afterall, but you have to choose whether you would risk what just happened to happen again.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 September 2010): It doesn't sound like you've done anything wrong. It just sounds like he's a bit immature. I wouldn't worry about it. Chalk this one up to a loss, although it doesn't sound like you lost much.
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