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anonymous
writes:My Exboyfriend texted me to say "I am truly sorry for all that I did to you. I hope things are well, I miss you (petname)." He cheated on me and left me for another woman 6 months ago. We were together 6 years. He has sent a couple messages like this in the past couple months but I have never replied to any of them.
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reader, birdynumnums  +, writes (8 March 2011):
 Sounds to me like a fishing expedition for a booty call.
Goor for you for not falling for this hook, line and sinker.
Once a cad, always a cad.
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reader, tennisstar88  +, writes (8 March 2011):
 Good for you for not caving and replying back to him! That's the hardest part.
In my experience, I have had numerous jerk off ex's send me those "Apology texts/messages/emails". Almost always their motive for these messages is that they're looking for a quick hook-up, even to cheat on their current girlfriend/wife. Very, very rarely is that apology sincere and they're looking to get back together.
Just hit the delete button on your phone and pay him no mind.
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reader, koojoe +, writes (8 March 2011):
"I am truly sorry for all that I did to you."
I wouldn't accept this. Such a weak statement and no apology at all. He cannot even say it to your face or in a silly text WHAT he is apologising for.
When it is sincere, people have the courage to state EXACTLY what they are apologising for.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 March 2011): DrPsych's advise is perfect. He most likely is in the throes of karma having done the exact same thing to him as he did to you and realizing how horrible it feels. While it is also possible that now he feels such tremendous guilt and wishes to express his apologies, it is more than likely him feeling the sting of karma that has come back full tilt.
It also appears that he is trying to reel you back in, using your petname and telling you he misses you. You are very wise to ignore these texts. If you were to give in to it and him, it is like saying that you condone what he did to you and giving him permission to do it all over again if given that second chance. Every time you feel as if you might want to respond, remember how it felt in those first horrible moments when you found out he cheated on you and how he certainly didnt feel any remorse then.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 March 2011): he has probably realised that the 'grass is not greener' on the other side and/or he has 'had a taste of his own medicine'. I agree with DrPsych, ignore him or text him back to say you note his comments, but would prefer not to have contact with him again as you've moved on. I would be very straight to the point, so there is no question of him contacting you again.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 March 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHe is still with her. At least, Im 99% sure he is. So its not that hes single and is looking for someone to feel sorry for him. He actually moved in with her when he left me and has been there ever since.....
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reader, simpleandstraight  +, writes (8 March 2011):
 It was very right of you to ignore him i think he want to know if you are dating someone so that he can point out how miserable you are as compared to him . Please be firm and put your foot down DO NOT REPLY HIM.
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reader, DrPsych +, writes (8 March 2011):
 I think you are doing the right thing by ignoring him. If he cheated, he would cheat again if you got back together. He is texting you because he is single and hoping for someone to make him feel better. Perhaps someone has now cheated on him and he knows how you feel. I think you just have to ignore him or send a text asking for no more contact to move on with your life.
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