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writes:Okay, this feels stupid but here we go. This girl is a friend of a friend, they are not like my best friends or anything, infact i bumped into them at a bar. There was attraction as I find her extremely attractive and there was this slight nervousness always.In fact I adored her quite a lot but never explicitly showed it, infact flirted with other girls but never with her cause she kinda induced respect - I'd love to have her as a friend is what I thought. Kinda genuinely interested in her. Now one day again we bumped into each other at the same place. She was with a friend, but not a common friend. We had interesting conversation, this friend - a girl- needed to leave and wanted to take her as well out of you know leaving together but this girl did not want to leave and was a little embarrassed saying it as well. so i went out so that they could sort it out. so this friend left and she stayed. Now we chatted and laughed and sang and shouted made fun of people in all had fun. and had a lovely time.I mean we really hit it off and it was the most fun i had and looked like she did in quite some time! she initiated innocuous touching on claps high 5s and then a little brushing of the knee against my jeans - though i don't know if this was deliberate - Then we danced as well, then i think both of us were drunk by then. So I kinda invited her over and she accepted. We reached home and kissed and a little more but then we slept - we did not completely do it - cause both of us were quite drunk!, i told her i really loved her and she told me she is so attracted to me. then we woke up in the middle of the night and she had to go home - valid reason her folks were actually calling her all the time and she was refusing to go. I left her to her home. in the morning i felt weird and a little guilty as well. And did not call just messaged about having a good time nothing amorous , kinda avoiding the sex thing in case she was embarrassed, well i was certainly embarrassed a little. she replied back and we had a few interactions on sms - but she was warm in some sms then not too much on others. she never called or messages me on her own though - i always initiated it so that is certainly a red flag unless she is restraining herself so that i dont understand she likes me a lot - but then if she did she could tell me we've practically had sex already. Further - then she started acting aloof and did not respond to all sms. i called after 2 weeks to take it a little slow but she did not sound very warm. I am sure neither did i, but i am quite in love with her - and that is an understatement. What i want to know is, is she avoiding me because she is not all that interested in me and that was just one fun night? Or because she is embarrassed that the first time we met I was able to pick her up and do her and she wants to act pricey so that I don't think she is easy or does she think i just want to do her while she falls for me. Actually what i need to know is this - is she in love with me or not ? Cause at the very least I would want to keep her as a great friend, and I thought she would too but maybe she is thinking I am an asshole and she should have some distance with me OR she just wanted a fling and she thinks I am getting serious? I mean it could be like either 1) she is a slut (i mean just wanted sex i don't mean it in a negative manner), 2) I am a slut, 3) She loves me and I don't 4) I love her and she thinks i am clingy/needy and she does not 5) We both love each other 6) We are both slutsI am okay with 5 and 6. 2 and 3 she might think is the case but is not so i can take care of that. But tell me does 1 and 4 sound like a strong possibility? I hope not but then i am really confused, though i am generally good at understanding and reading people.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 August 2011): after 5 months what happened now? cause, i have the exact problem.. exact scenario, and im confused.. what was the kiss and the third base all about? why is she avoiding me now? hmm.. kinda weird..
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 March 2011): both 30s, she is younger by 2 years
I know it sounds quite adolescentish
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