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writes:I don't get it. My boyfriend of two and a half years ended our relationship for silly reasons that are his to blame also. He said that I never did enough romantic events for him, I was to independent and didn't ask him to do everything for me, not that I would ask because he never does as I ask. My boyfriend stopped communication with me and lied when I asked if he was fine. I mean, really, do people actually break up over that. I did romantic events for him he just wanted it to be more special than what I did. If I bought him flowers he would be mad that I didn't send them to his job while he was working. But love is a two way street. He never initiates anything saying if I want him to do something I will have to do something for him first. As far as our sex life, it was freaky good but then he decided to limit our sex. He actually would prefer to jack off then have sex. Then he mentions he is falling in love with his best friend's boyfriend. I knew this was a mistake and just held my tongue figuring that maybe it was best that my ex just gets his heart broken because when they started to get close he learned that the guy was still having sex with his ex. Well my ex-boyfriend now, finally asked him to stop and he said he would. I knew he was lying and again decided to hold my tongue. Weeks go on and my ex-boyfriends ignorance and naive behavior annoyed me to no end and I told him what was going on. He was pissed to find out that his best friend and his ex were still having sex. He said that it is off and he wont date him. I didn't hold my breath to that. Well the next day comes and he is all mushy mushy with him. I don't believe it. If that was me he would have chopped off my balls but not him. He is so stupidly in love with this jack ass and I don't get why? Should I even bother helping him again. Should I just hold my tongue even if I see past the stupid kids lies. I felt like I should have kept everything to myself because I don't think he will learn what heartbroken is like if he doesn't have it happen to him.
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reader, Kenj +, writes (26 July 2010):
 Its a bit of a messed up situation, you should really find someone who appreciates you for who you are and not someone who wants control.
Good luck.
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (26 July 2010):
 JEBUS he sounds like a crazy one, be glad it's over.
Relationships is a two way street, not a 90/10%, but a 50/50% or even better a 100/100%.
Find yourself a guy who is less demanding and crazy and more loving. You seem like a nice guy, you deserve a nice guy.
Look back on the relationship, laugh and learn from it. It's a What-not-to-do kind of relationship. One person who wants to have all the say and all the power. Utterly unequal.
Good luck,
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reader, Kayl 25 +, writes (26 July 2010):
I think you just need to walk away from this guy, he used some silly excuse to break up with you, he was just looking for an easy way out coz he had his eye on this other dude, the best thing to do would be stay away from him for a while and give yourself time to get over him, then once you feel up to it get yourself out and meet a nice guy who deserves your time and love. You need to surround yourself with friends and just move on, the guy doesnt respect you. Best of luck and feel free to get in touch
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reader, dirtball +, writes (26 July 2010):
 This is a mess, be glad to be done with it. Sounds like you were with a manipulator. I have a couple crazy ex's too. Sex with the crazy ones is usually awesome, but the relationships drain you to the point where it sounds like you are. It's always best to let people make their own mistakes, they rarely learn otherwise. You might also come off as the jealous ex. Time to move on if you ask me.
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