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writes:I need to know why a married woman would tell a guy she knows that she has only had one sexual partner in her life, which is her husband? If you were a guy and a married lady told you that, what would you think her intentions were? I don't think that piece of info is something you would just go around telling anyone. It is pretty personal, don't you think?
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 September 2011): Hi guys. I am the OP of the question. This woman has been my friend for six months now and she has told me she is unhappy and bored with her husband. He does not pay attention to her. He works long hours. He does not help her with the kids. He is not romantic. He is verbally abusive and on and on. She has thrown a few sexual hints my way before. So, I am thinking in that context, she is trying to tell me she is interested in me. If that is the case, I would be an idiot to turn her down. She is unbelievably HOT. I am having a hard time letting the fantasy of her and I go.
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reader, Ciar  +, writes (12 September 2011):
 It depends on the context in which this information was shared, how good a friend she is to you (or thinks she is) and how discreet she is normally.
It's far too soon to read anything more into it.
It's interesting that the women who responded pretty much all believe she was just talking to you as a friend, while the men (and those I suspect are men), with the exception of one, all seem to think she is hinting about having sex with you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 September 2011): For you to be asking you're reading meanings into this information. As much as it could mean nothing, it could also mean something. She maybe bored and looking for an outlet. I think you should give her some space. If she's looking for some attention which she isn't getting at home. To me ite private information. I think she's basically asking if you're up for it.
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reader, cmarieky +, writes (12 September 2011):
I think from all the other female response you received that unanimously women across the board enjoy having male friends they can share the truth with. That's how the majority of us women think and see things. She may not have being saying that and implying she want u to help her change that. She considers u a respectable friend who can receive such information without thinking into it romantically. I've slept with my best male friend but we weren't at all intimate, just shared a bed...no biggie. Notice the answer of the poster that thought she was making a pass at it, he is male. So males tend to read into things they want to see to not, and they tend not to read into the obvious things that are told to them verbally.....Interesting, just ignore the comment and respect your friendship with her and her marriage.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 September 2011): No worries. I've had female friends talk about there sexual past before. It happens. If it makes you uncomfortable change the subject. If she doesn't get the hint tell her. Girls sometimes like to talk and guys do it too. I worked out at the airport once in my life and everyone kind of knew everyones sexual past. It helped pass the time on lay overs and delays. If your not open to it change the subject. Nothings wrong with you, or her or any of it. Shes just sharing the joy of her life with ya. Now if she starts making advances on you then i'd get out of there. Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 September 2011): I can relate to what your saying and understand your cause for concern. This has happened to me in the past as well, and based on my experience, she's probably grooming you for an affair or a one time dalliance. If she has expressed feelings of disillusionment regarding her marriage while sharing private information with you regarding her sexual partners, then she's probably trying to convey to you that she doesn't see anything wrong with a little bump and grind.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 September 2011): She sees you as a really good friend.She trusted you that you won't take her wrong.Her trust was totally misplaced.Yes I do talk about sex with my guy friends.We joke around about a pregnancy as a result of a condom being broken or the miracle child conceived on the wrong day of the month.I hope she gets to read this question and dumps you as a friend.We do share who was a virgin and who was not.It doesn't mean a da**.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (11 September 2011):
 You would have to add more information about who she is to you and why this information would be special, or "mean" anything other than the actual words. Because as it is I don't see why you'd need to read anything else into it. She's stated a fact.
If anything, maybe she thinks young people sleep around too much?
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 September 2011): She sounds proud of the fact that her husband is the only man she has been with. I think you are taking it the wrong way,
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 September 2011): No I don't think, I think maybe your reading into this because you have a secret crush on her?
I think maybe she is proud that she has held out for her husband and maintained her marraige vows and is proud to share the fact that she and her husband are one of the rare couples who can say they've only had each other these days. Good on her I say. Nothing personal about it in my opinion.
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reader, person12345 +, writes (11 September 2011):
 I think you're reading way, way too much into this. Some people are less private about their sex lives than others, and that's not even really her sex life.
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