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female
age
41-50,
*soc
writes:This guy is single but doesn't want to be in any relationship right now. He was on the process of divorcing his wife and he was discussing with me how he lost that trust to women. We are friends or a little more than friends but we're not in a bf-gf relationship.. we share emotional intimacy but its not going physical. I like him a lot.. and I know that he likes me, too, but maybe not equally. He's not into dating and all the stuff. We see each other because we're friends and I see that he's going through his single life well. Is it because of the divorce thing or is it more about losing the trust to women?
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (10 July 2010):
You'll find that it is a mixture of both the divorce and losing trust in women. Both these things need time, I'm afraid. What you don't want is to be his rebound and wind up getting used. Right now, this guy needs your support as a friend, not as anything else. Divorce is very stressful, and men do not take to it as well as women (a proven fact now). So he will need time and space to come to terms with what has happened. Meanwhile, you need to be making sure that you don't base your life around him. It may well be that he likes you as a friend and nothing more, so you mustn't wait around hoping he will suddenly see you as a potential girlfriend. Be a good friend to him, but give him time and space to get over his divorce and build his confidence up again.
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