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writes:I've been with my bf for almost a year now in somewhat of a long distance relationship. We live an hour from each other and only see each other on weekends when he comes and spends the whole weekend with me. In the whole time I've known him, I've only been to his place 4-5 times. He moved back to his parents a couple years ago and so my place is more convenient. I met his family a few times, even spent thanksgiving with them. I met his best friend twice but outside of that he hasn't introduced me to anyone else. I know he has a couple guy friends that he goes to bars with fairly regularly during the week but i've never met them. Isn't it weird that he doesn't want me to meet them? Since he's here most of the time, he's met my friends many times and is even friends with them on fb. I feel like im not part of this side of his life. I know that one is an eternal bachelor and the other one he used to do drugs with so maybe he's ashamed but still. If he still hangs out with them every week, i would think that i should meet them at some point?
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reader, Sweet-thing  +, writes (29 June 2012):
 Because he seems to always go to your place I think it may be difficult to schedule a time for you to meet them. It's probably not a crucial for him as it is for you. Have you told him you want to meet them? If you haven't then he probably has no clue. He's introduced you to his family and his best friend so he's obviously not hiding anything. Just because he hasn't had the chance to introduce you to every friend he knows doesn't mean something bad. You just need to spend more time going to his house if you want to meet his friends. Otherwise don't make a big deal out of it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 June 2012): Quite a few similarities between you and this girl http://www.dearcupid.org/question/boyfriend-is-withdrawns-since-i-told-him-i.html
To me it means he's either hiding something or he's not that serious about you that he wants to completely share his life with you.
Whichever of those is the case only you can find out by asking him.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (29 June 2012):
 IF you spend most weekends at your place, then you spend most of the time around your friends... you've met his family and friends so it sounds like he's not hiding you it's just that it's easier at your place to deal with your friends.
if he is with them during the week but not on weekends how do you propose that you meet them?
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reader, AuntyEm +, writes (29 June 2012):
 hey you've met his family and his best friend...I think that's pretty good!!
If his other friends are jerks, it's not unusual for a guy to protect his girl from them. Maybe he tolerates them but thinks if you meet them, you might think he is a jerk for having them as friends (women are far more judgemental than men with this kind of thing).
It's only been a year and you see eachother regularly so this is good also. Distance is a hard thing to over come but not impossible, perhaps in the future you will both move things foward and live together?...perfectly possible if you don't make a mountain out of a molehill!!
I think there is plenty of time to see how things pan out.
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