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writes:HELP! - Why have I got such low self esteem and panic so much?I have always been a worrier - but lately I so much worry about EVERYTHING!! - I am beginning to hate myself - I worry about my frizzy hair (that is always frizzy no matter what I do), I worry about my shape, I worry in my job (which has lots of security issues) that I may get sacked for doing something stupid!! What is wrong with me??
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reader, dirtball  +, writes (17 August 2010):
 You worry too much. There, simple right? LoL
I'm sorry, that was a bad joke. There is no easy fix here. I think you need to change your fundimental view of the world. I'm a bit of a worrier too. I tend to overthink the simple, and then I end up doing nothing out of fear it will go wrong, or not have the outcome I want. A few years back I decided that life is simply too short to sweat the small stuff like I was. Many things in life are completely out of our control. We can fret and worry about them, or we can accept the fact that there is nothing that can be done to change them and have a lot less stress in our life. Since doing this, I've actually started to embrace some of the things that used to trouble me. It is a truely liberating feeling.
My advice to you would be to list out all your worries. Write them down. Then go through that list and find which ones you can control, and which ones you can't. My guess is that this will reduce your list quite a bit. After you've done that, work on letting go of the things out of your control. They truely don't matter. Then focus on the things you can control. Find little things you can do to help control them. For example, your hair. Try different shampoos or conditioner. Maybe talk to your stylist and see if there is something they would recommend. Maybe there is a hair style that could accentuate this and use it to your advantage.
Life is too short to spend it worrying.
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reader, Plexi  +, writes (17 August 2010):
 You are normal.........nobody is perfect and most people have self esteem issues of one kind or another. Even the most beautiful women in the world have self esteem issues mainly because they haven't learned how to believe in themselves, accept who they are and love themselves. Don't worry so much about what other people think of you.......if you can release yourself from trying to live up to "expectations" you will find that you will be a much happier person and good things and people wil be attracted to you.
Be aware of the names you call yourself and how many fasults you focus on. If we constantly critisize ourselves, we eventually start believing we are worthless and this leads to poor self esteem and depression. What would happen if when you woke up in the morning you started with........."what a great day this will be!" and when you looked in the mirror, instead of looking for something that's wrong with you you look for something that you like about yourself( there must be something you like about yourself....nice smile?, beautiful eyes" sexy cleavage?)Start complimenting yourself on little things even if you don't believe it and soon you will feel beter about yourself.
Play the character you want to be and soon you will become that woman:)
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