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female
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anonymous
writes:So I met this guy last weekend through friends at a bar. The next day my friend said he asked for my number and thought I was cute. ok, great, so I passed on my number on sunday. He then requested to be my friend on facebook yesterday and sent me a message just saying it was nice to meet and hope to hang again...ok, so I responded, said it would be cool to hang out, and then he responded, yeah, blah blah blah and again, "hope to hang out again."so my stupid question is...why hasn't he asked me out yet?? He has my number, he hit me up on fb. But what's the deal? I know it's only tuesday, but I feel like he asked for my numero, what's he waiting for? I'm playing it cool, but I'm waving him into home, so I'm not sure what the hold up is!
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reader, Orbiter  +, writes (30 March 2011):
Could be that he's busy, not overly interested and asked for your number on a whim or for an ego boost. He might even be shy.
Or it could be that because he was the one that asked for your number, added you on Facebook, messaged you on Facebook, he is now waiting for you to make the first move and confirm you are actually interested by suggesting somewhere to meet so he doesn't seem pushy.
So perhaps try doing that and you might get your answer.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (30 March 2011):
 Because certain things are a sort of code or shorthand for something else.
" Let's do lunch one of these days " " We should hang out soon ". Etc.
The only way that means a real interest would be with a time qualifier. " Let's do lunch one of these days, are you free Monday or Tuesday next week ". " We should hang out soon - when the new movies come out at the cineplex ".
Formulated in these vague terms a " just in case "- shorthand for " I think you are attractive but I am not planning to put any special effort in pursuing you .Yet I would not mind having the option to take you out in case
one of these days I find myself with no special plans and no better options ".
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 March 2011): A lot of guys just like to know they still got it and that confirmation is enough for them. He probably did think you were cute but that in no way means he's going put alot of energy into it. When guys say things like hang out but don't ask you out, it usually means just that like you have to call them up and go over there and wind up having sex and then three months down the line you realize they never once took you out. He's that kinda guy.
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