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writes:Why has she stopped talking to me? She used to be clingy and text me all the time. Now she only texts if I do with at most two messages. I'd always get morning messages when I woke up and now she stopped. She's distant. As if she doesn't care to talk to me anymore. She has been whining about me not being as available as I used to be. I've had stressful days and uve told her. When I do get the time to talk with her, we have an argument. I've told her I can't be available 24 hours a day for her. She should understand that.
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reader, Daniel the love doctor +, writes (5 October 2011):
 Well I think she pointed out the reason she hasn't been in constant communication with you anymore. She's complaining about you not being available. On top of that, you two have been arguing a lot. With all of this going on, she's probably not in such a rush anymore to speak to you.What you should do is have a talk with her- and figure out how you two can work on this problem. I think that even though you may not be available 24/7 for her, you should try to come up with times that work well for the both of you to talk. It doesn't have to be appointment based, and you're only talking at 5:00-5:30PM on a Monday, for example. But figure the best days and times that you both would both be available to speak- and communicate around those times.
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reader, Koala Bear  +, writes (5 October 2011):
 You have to put as much work into a relationship as you would a job. She was the one showing interest, sending you morning messages, and she was the one taking time out of her day to let you know you were on her mind. Your reciprocation was basically "I'm busy, I can't be available 24/7". Not very romantic. If you like her enough you should be making time to do the same. Put yourself in her shoes. If you were scheduling someone you thought was special into your life, wishing them a good day in the mornings and show interest but they never took the time to say or do the same to you, never planned anything special for you...would you want to continue the effort of wooing them? Probably not.You should at least be meeting her half way on this. Don't leaving it up to her to initiate contact. Take control and let the woman of your life know she is just as important and that you are indeed interested.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 October 2011): Well, from what you have said, seems like she was really feeling you. She was very emotionally involved in your relationship. However, you basically told her to back off by making yourself unavailable. Most likely her sensitivity got the best of her, her happiness was destroyed by your words, and she took your advice as "okay ill back up". She took a step back from the relationship because that's basically what you asked for. Her emotional involvement took a 180 turn. You shouldn't blame her if that's what you said to her is true. Girls are sensitive. Its not to say that you have screwed up your chances with her, but you will have to work hard to pull her back in. Seems like you miss the attachment she had with you, but you took advantage of it. Now, after not having it, you realize you want it. So go get it back.
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reader, raveykisses +, writes (5 October 2011):
She is probably use to you always being there for her and now that your life has hurt a busy road block she is scared that she will lose you so she figures if she leaves you alone when you have time to talk you will contact her first. Also when you try to talk to her try to understand where she is coming from because if you were in her shoes and was worried about her you would be the same way...She may start arguments because she doesn't know how to explain to you in a calm manor of how she feels at the moment because she feels lost with out you always being there. And i am sure she knows you can't be there for her 24/7 but the times you can be there for her try and try to avoid arguments because that will just make her more distant in the end.
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